Saturday, October 12, 2013
But most unusually, I have not hooked up with a guy in the two months since I've returned from the DC Bloggerpalooza and it would be hard to explain why. Here are several reasons:
1. Lack of time: I've been working non-stop on both my teaching job and on my house renovation. Winter is fast approaching and it will be very chilly here indeed if I don't get the job done. And, I'm exhausted!
2. Although I've met many fantastic men on squirt.org, I became tired of being constantly messaged by some pretty fucked-up guys including the many who want to cheat on their wives or girlfriends. As well, I was being badgered by a couple of worrisome 60ish dudes who wouldn't take no for answer. I haven' t logged onto squirt for two months.
3. I now have a very clear idea of the sort of man I want for an LTR: funny, smart, close to my age, attentive, thoughtful, with good family values and most important of all, crazy about me. And suddenly, there were just too many men wanting to hook up who didn't have any of these criteria. All at once, I became less interested in the shallowness of these encounters.
Big Red, Whimpering Hottie and a third young man who who I haven't yet blogged out.
This third young man attended my kids' elementary school ) one year ahead of my oldest daughter (complication #1) and whose father was a past teaching colleague (complication #2.)
I was very pleased that these sweet young men still want to spend more time with me, but I explained to each of them why I wasn't hooking up with anyone for the time being.
However, Mr. Perfect LTR is nowhere in sight, at least in my town, and despite the shallowness of casual hookups, I think that my craving for cock, sweet kisses and skin-to-skin contact with a warm, sexy man will win out.
I recently set up a POF.com profile with a clear picture of my face and clothed torso, listing my age as 36. (This is to get around POF's ridiculous rule forbidding any messaging with men outside of +/- 14 years of your age.) How else could those poor, horny 22 year-old curious gay virgins contact me?
Having my face pic on this popular site was a very brave step out because it will certainly be seen by gay students (present and former), colleagues and others in the community. This also meant that my profile could not be sexually explicit. It simply said: "I enjoy the company of men of all ages, types, sizes and levels of experience. And, I am 50 not 36."
The face pic did the trick. In the past several days, I've have many POF-chats with six different men, all of whom seem quite eager to meet me, ranging from an extremely persistent 19-year-old gay virgin, a "curious" young man (22) with a girlfriend and an "athletic-build" married man (42) whose wife allows him to have affairs as long as they're with men and not women.
Despite some offers, I haven't yet made myself available to any of these guys but I probably will ..... details to follow.
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