Damn you POF!

Today's Pic-a-Day-in-May is for Wayne who requested a clearer view of my ass-crack.  I took numerous pics with my cheeks spread, rosebud exposed for all the world to see and with cock and balls hanging below. 

But sorry Wayne, I could not bring myself to post them.  I'm just not that kind of a girl!

Arrrgh!!   From the start of my hooking-up life, POF.com has been my biggest source of hookups in two categories: 
(1)  Inexperienced 22 year old men wishing to explore their gayness with an experienced man outside of their peer group.
(2)  Men in their 30s and 40s, some married, who list "seeking a woman" on their profiles but wish to discreetly explore their emerging attraction to men by hooking up with a guy like me.  

I really enjoyed having the easy access to these men provided by POF.  "Straight" men are more likely to set a profile on POF because it's primarily a heterosexual dating site.  Then, they can creep on the profiles of gay guys like me.

These POF men have provided me with some of my most intense encounters.  As a bonus, I get to be intimate with men in their 20s without much effort on my part.  I still haven't yet had my fill of the 20-something men, probably because I didn`t get to experience them when I was in my 20s myself.

Yesterday, POF changed its rules to refocus as a relationship site.  The 'intimate encounters' category has been removed and countless "sleazy profiles" such as mine were deleted.  If any user mentions sex in his first message to another user, he runs the risk of having his profile deleted. 

Worse yet, users are restricted from searching for or messaging anyone who is age is +/- 14 years different from theirs. That just doesn't work for gay guys, young or old!  This means that a 36 year old man will be blocked from messaging me and visa versa. Blahhh!!!

Based on the flood of irate comments, it's safe to say that POF has pissed off a lot of its users.

Of my other options, bear411.com has many quality men but only a handful (<20) are on the site locally.   I've had some success with squirt.org which has about 1000 local guys listed.  But I've never been completely comfortable with squirt as it's more of a hard-core gay hookup site with more creepy guys on it. 

Now that I have my first SmartPhone, I might choose to set up my first profile on sites such as Scruff, Grindr or Manhunt.  But because I've lost a method of contact with some online chat friends who are 35 and younger, I might just be forced into setting  up a fake POF profile just to maintain those conversations. 

I'll just have to see what develops......

ps:  I hosted Big Red (a larger guy who I mentioned at the bottom of this post)  at my house last night for about three hours. Big Red resembles the sexy, fun guy pictured above in the Iron Man undies. We had the sweetest time together!  Details to follow.

Naked men in art

My condolences go out to the many people in Oklahoma affected by the tornados.  I'm sure that it would be impossible for outsiders to imagine the devastating scenes and the grief that is unfolding.
I had a lot of fun attempting to recreate this painting of a naked man, as suggested by Wayne for today's Pic-a-Day-in-May.  It was my most challenging self-pic yet as I had only a few seconds to set the timer and fling myself into position, ensuring my manly-bits and face were covered and my limbs were correctly arranged. 

It's a goal of mine to be photographed and/or painted by a professional who has an understanding of the male nude body and is interested in finding the attractiveness in mature men.   As well, I would only do this with an artist who was a gay man ..... and it would be a bonus if he was also hot.

Beautiful Furry Torso Guy

This pic is quite over-exposed and is a rather daring one, for me.  But I'm sure that some of you will like it.

Wow!   I've really fallen off the Pic-a-Day-in-May thing wagon!  I'll be doing Two-Pics-Every-Second-Day in May.   I'm just too busy for a daily post and alternate-day posting allows for a better conversation to develop in the comments.

I'm posting three pics taken this morning under the theme:  "Creative things to do with Mardi Gras Beads."

It's the Victoria Day weekend here and finally we have a bit sunshine after the lousiest weather imaginable..... windy, very cold with a driving rain which prompted local authorities to issue flood warnings for our rivers, already swollen from the spring snow melt.  I have two stories to report on:

A:   Late last night, I got a pof.com message from Beautiful Torso Guy who was in a nearby hotel for the night and wondered if I was interested.  Was I interested?  Hold me back!!!

We had a very pleasant encounter but not nearly as lengthy or exciting as our first meeting where he ended up with a dislocated shoulder.  This time, he had been up since 5:30 am and prior to that, had only 2.5 hours sleep, so he was very, very tired.   But that made our encounter so much sweeter;  it was like making love to a langorous wildcat, stretching and basking in the sun.

Afterwards, we chatted and caught up on our work, family and romantic news.  I'd describe ours as a true 'fuck buddy' relationship but as he lives over 500 km away, he's in town only four or five times per year.   He's just the nicest, funniest, sexiest, most uncomplicated guy I've met so far.

B:    This weekend, I heard yet again from Dating Guy (who I dated for a week in January) and who resurfaced two months later to tell me that he "really, really liked me."   I blogged about him at that time, saying how I really wasn't comfortable with him.... in fact, had NO interest in him at all. 

Here's our POF exchannge:

Dating Guy:   Hi

Buddy Bear:   How have you been?

Dating Guy:   Been so great lately. Down a couple pounds. Which helps the energy level. But Unfortunately had also increased my sex drive. But on the up side I'm getting alot of offers.

Buddy Bear:   Great!  I'd think that an increased sex drive is a good thing.

Dating Guy:    Way too many twinks here. I need to find a mans man.

Buddy Bear:    Most of the guys our age in this town are married and / or in the closet!

 Dating Guy:    And if course I have the night weekend free and me without a sex date.  Lol. Just phone calls away though. I'm back in the saddle babe. :)

Buddy Bear:     I'm glad to hear you're back in the saddle! It's time for me to be really honest here and say that I wouldn't be comfortable hooking up with you. I'm sorry that I feel this way and it would be hard to explain the "why", but that's how it is. :-(

Dating Guy:      Please don't miss read thAt as me putting you in that loop. Don't get me wrong but I'm not interested in ever having any romantic or physical involvement with you. What we did was fine , but who would we be kindling if we didn't admit there was no chemistry there. You're an okay person to chat with but I had realized awhile ago you weren't someone I wanted any more from. (.... and he went on with more of the same....)

My views on this last message:
1.   I think he's full of shit!   I'm certain that he was still trying to get me into his bed.
2.   He also told me that my message (above) was really blunt;  it probably was but what else was a boy to do?  All the subtle messages from me were having no effect.  Another fact:  when he was at my house a few weeks ago and tried to give me a blowjob in my kitchen, my cock went as limp as yesterday's lettuce.  I just wasn't interested in him!!
3.   But I really hope that we will end up platonic gay friends!  He is smart, wickedly funny and knows all the local gay gossip.  I think this might be possible.

Opinions?


What's missing is a sexy man to snuggle up to.

Juggling men

I've been too busy and tired for any creativity in my Pic-a-Day-in-May submissions.   I'll have a bit more time during our upcoming long weekend for Victoria Day.  But here's an update on some of the men most recently in my life.

Incompatible Fuck Buddy:  I ran into him at Wal-Mart yesterday and it was a bit awkward.  I've given up on him because he is such an old fuddy-duddy who's very difficult to get to stick to an arrangement.  And because all he wants to do is be the top, it's a serious case of "sexual incompatibility."  But I need to tell him all of this soon, gently, because he's really a nice guy.

 Handsome Goateed Guy:   He seems to really, really like me.  He's hoping I'll come over to his house on Saturday but I'm too busy as all three kids are still with me .... but mainly, I want more time in between our hookups.  I plan to continue our discussion about having more "balanced" hookups, with a little more effort made to give me pleasure and not just the other way around.  But I really LOVE our encounters;  very, very hot!

Handsome Guy:  I texted the father of my former student (who has Parkinson's Disease) earlier this week and most unusually, he never responded.  Maybe our fling has run it's course.

I have mixed feelings about him.  He is "perfect" in terms of his body type, handsomeness, availability, passion, intelligence, wit, finances and sexual chemistry.... and I mean as a potential LTR.   But I find his thrashing around during our love-making a bit off-putting and I can't imagine taking on a disabled person for the remainder of my life.  (that sounds selfish, I know)

Big Red:   We've messaged extensively on squirt.org and bear411.com but haven't yet hooked up.  At his suggestion, I visited Big Red at his retail workplace today during my lunch break.   He's a big 'un!   6'-2",  +250 pounds, curly red hair and bright blue eyes but very handsome, funny and charismatic.   Intense! And very happy to see me!  He followed up with a nice text and we're actively planning to have a some fun between the sheets.   I just know that we'll have a fun and adventurous time together!

I also have tentative plans with a couple of really nice guys I've been chatting with on squirt and POF, respectively:  a 51 year old DILF from my former neighbourhood who says he knows me (but I don't remember him!) and a 21 year old "athletic build" dude who'se very funny and seems determined for me to take his bottom virginity.

Jockstrapped Men

And yes, the first two pics are of me, special for A-Pic-a-Day-in-May.  All the other pics are of my favourite type of men:  beefy, hairy and masculine.

Bare ass

Today's Pic-a-Day-in-May is of my bare ass but not quite the "humping a pilllow" shot suggested by Wayne.  Because my three kids all are still here, coming and going, I dropped trou very quickly and took the snap.... no creativity or full nudity tonight!

After supper tonight,  I drove into town for some sexytime with Handsome Goateed Guy, he of my best-ever blowjob-giving experience. Unfortunately, during the time I needed to be getting ready for my 'date', the kids seemed disinclined to disperse to their rooms. 

Rather, they hung around our kitchen / family room and speculated about my preparations:  I had my second shower of the day and put on my "fuck me" T-shirt and jeans.  I couldn't look them in in the eye as I headed out the door, sex bag in hand: "I'm going out to do some errands."

I could practically feel their smirks burning into my back:  "RIGHT!  Dad always takes a shower and puts on his newest clothes when he goes to Home Depot!"   I'm sure they had a good discussion about what I was really up to after my departure .....

To my delight, Goateed Guy and I seem to becoming regulars.  Of all the men I've been with of any age, he is by far the most handsome and sexually responsive, with a fantastic, lean, lightly-furred, sexy body and a  beautiful fat cock.... the most beautiful one I've ever seen.  And he's very sweet and impossibly modest, apparently with no idea how desirable he really is.

All of our previous encounters happened in my house but with the kids here, that wasn't possible tonight. Tonight's sexytime was our best experience yet, but it happened in his workplace, as unsexy a venue as you could imagine.   

For the first time, he invited me to his house on Saturday and I suggested we expand our sexual repertoire together and explore other options.  He agreed to this with pleasure.   I can't wait!

Love nest

I severely cropped the original photo.

While I'm enjoying the 'pic-a-day' challenge, I much prefer posting on every second or third day because it gives sufficient time for comments to be posted and a conversation to develop.   I'm still receving comments about my nude beach day and reverse strip tease, several posts ago.

Most unusually, this Pic-a-day-in-May post will contain NO semi-nekkid pictures of me at all.   I took this self-timer pic while in class today with my delightful, chatty and excitable group of 25 grade ten students.   I just love every moment I spend in class with my students!

With some warmer weather, my three kids have been living with me much of the time.  This has wreaked havoc with my love life ... it's been many days* since I've been with a man and I'm starting to feel that itch again.

*I'm referring to last week's excellent hookup in my big city hotel which I didn't properly blog about.

Not being able to host men privately is becoming a real problem which will only worsen as the summer progresses.   I've held back in logging onto the gay hookups sites in recent days;  there's no point in having men message when I can't hook up with them.   I prefer to host than to go to some other guy's house and during the week, I'm generally too tired to drive back into town for the second time in the same day.

There are three buildings with sleeping quarters on my property:  (1)  the main house where my daughters sleep, (2)  my son's new bunkhouse / man-cave and (3) an exciting log building with a second-storey loft under a barn-style roof.  

I've decided to partition off a room in the loft as a love-nest where I can take men for some sexytime anytime I want.  It will be dark and very private, a place where my men can feel completely relaxed, secure and comfortable.  Construction will begin ASAP!

My future love-nest.