Monday, June 11, 2012

Spousal Support (NSFW)

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I continue to spend too much time talking to lawyers and bankers, utility and insurance companies.  Minor glitches arose regarding the sales and purchases of our homes as well as the on-going divorce.   It's a very complicated business, even with our high level of cooperation!   I can't imagine how couples survive a highly adversarial divorce!!


My wife signed off, giving me full title to my waterfront home.  But at the last moment, the bank wouldn't release my mortgage money (previously approved) without a spousal support agreement.  So my ownership of the waterfront home remains in limbo for now. .... a concern.


Although our salaries are identical, my wife is seven years older and retiring in three weeks.  This would have caused a serious income differential with my salary about 2.5x greater than her pension income.  

My lawyer said alimony payable by me should be in the range of $1,300 to $2,000 per month.   My wife and I knew full well that I would be forced to sell the waterfront home because I couldn't manage both the mortgage and this amount of alimony.  |

We both are highly committed to keeping our waterfront home in the family;  for the kids, it's not just a home but a way of life.  In fact, my wife offered me the property at some 20% below it's appraised value;  all I had to do is buy her out for 1/2 of the reduced amount.   It was very generous because the prices of these waterfront homes continue to skyrocket.

At our lawyer-mediator session, my wife and I agreed on $1,200 / month spousal support but payable only for seven years until I reach the age that she is now.  We felt this more than fair.

Yesterday, to my total shock, my wife offered to lower the amount to $1,000 / month, but with the option of returning to the $1,200 amount should a need arise.   Wow!!  Where did that come from?

A couple of my wife' s best friends (who are also my friends) felt that I was not being treated fairly in our financial arrangements.  Their view not correct, based on my discussions with my lawyer,  "She agreed to that?!" 

I strongly suspect they used their influence to get my wife to lower the alimony.   Our friends are highly supportive of me,  seeing how hard I've worked to keep our family unit somewhat intact and to get my wife settled in her new home.   One friend of my wife appreciated "how I haven't been behaving in a sleazy manner since coming out"..... little do they know the truth about my slut phase!


6 comments:

  1. Buddy, remember when I said she still loved you? I think I was correct. Just as we love our kids when we still want to throttle them. I think that would explain her actions. Yes, her/your friends helped her see things. Something similiar is going in my situation. Out of the blue, wife comes up with a credit card splitting. Needs some work but I came out much better than I thought I would. Not saying trust her completely because even if she wants to do the right things, she doesn't seem to be capable of that when highly emotional. Just as my wife as said over the years she would change a particular behavior, she isn't capable of it. No matter how hard she tries. BUT I do appreciate her efforts. Good luck Buddy. See you in Toronto in 2013!

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  3. Skier: yes, you are very perceptive and I think, correct! Our situations (and our wives reactions to it) are very similar.

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