A slow but steady trickle of serious potential buyers has been looking at our house so my wife and I decided to "stay the course" and continue to try to sell it privately. The main reason is to avoid the + $25,000 realtor's commission. Despite the problems in our marriage (the biggest one being my gayness), we always have been remarkably compatible in our attitudes to nearly everything.
I don't see how any divorcing couple can go through this process if their relationship was in any way adversarial. So much trust and cooperation is needed and amazingly, we have achieved this for the most part. We still have our regular ups and downs but we always move past them with the air clearer than before.
Emotionally, my wife has had a difficult time spending so much time in her former home where we raised our kids and had so many good times. A few days ago, she phoned me, sobbing, "I just can't do it anymore!" I said: (1) Yes, I know it is extremely difficult for you; it takes a lot of courage to do what you are doing. (2) No one asked you to be the saleswoman here; it was your idea to do this and you can also choose not to do it. (3) If you don't want to show the house anymore, I'll do it or we'll hire a realtor.
In the end, my wife decided to continue to show the house herself. I admire her for her courage. She really is exceptionally good at selling and dealing with potential buyers ... far better than I would be.
By the way, I came out to about ten of my closest work colleagues this week. Everyone was hugely supportive and excited for me. After everything I've been through in my nine-month journey, this coming-out was tiny taters; a total non-event. I'll describe this in more detail in my next post.