These beautiful pictures were taken by the Atlanta photographer Joshua Thomas for a charity calendar which might not be be released until July 2013, Hunks and Hounds. Read an interview with the photographer here. and check out his website.
These are the rest of my goals for 2013 continued from my previous post. Note: Goal #1 was copied verbatim from my resolutions from one year ago.
4. Volunteer at one but preferably two LGBTQ organizations in town.
One organization needs volunteers to help at big events such as our Gay Pride week in June or our LGBTQ Film Festival. The other organization provides blanket support to LGBTQ folk in the community, but is located on campus of our local university so most of the clientele would be of university age.
However, I am concerned if I volunteer at the university-based organization that I will look like some lecherous old perv (which is what I actually am) who is only there to hookup with the hottie frat boys. Tricky!
I didn't even attempt to do this in 2012 because I was too stressed-out selling my house, moving, negotiating our divorce agreement and dealing with my prostate issues.
But the main reason I didn't do it is that by joining one of these organizations I would have outed myself to the community at large. I'm fine with that but I wanted my final divorce agreement signed first because I expect my ex-wife will react negatively to it. So, next week, I will contact the LBTQ coordinators to find out how I can help. I promise!
5. Find some more friends, preferably gay men.
I have only one extremely close friend in town who I've known since birth. We were born days apart and were neighbours for 23 years until he married and I moved across the country. But he lives 45 minutes away and has a very busy life as a straight divorced dad raising his kids so we don't have as much contact as we'd like.
It was hard to make new friends during the many years when my kids were young; the demands of child-rearing mainly without help, dealing with my wife's erratic behaviour and earning a living gave me no time or energy for anything else. Most of my "friends" in the old neighbourhood were just parents of my chidren's friends .... I probably would not have associated with them without that connection. Once the kids grew up and moved on, I've only maintained contact with several of them but on my "B-list."
I'm still not convinced that it is possible for single, gay men who are looking for an LTR to be platonic friends. Doug would be a great friend but he really wants to have sex with me and maybe even an LTR. I consider myself friends with the two older gay men with whom we had the hot-tub party in August, but as they live 50 minutes away, getting together with them is a challenge.
When I volunteer with the local gay organizations this year, I will meet a wide variety of LGBTQ folks "in the flesh", not just online. I hope develop a wider circle of friends among them.
My final goal: SEX, SEX, SEX! will be dealt with in my next post.