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More divorce drama; just a little, anyway. A close work colleague commented: "You should just expect erratic behaviour from your wife. Then when she behaves normally, that would be just a pleasant surprise."
Five days ago, my wife and I agreed to instruct our law firm to file jointly for an uncontested divorce. With a joint filing and the signed Separation Agreement, our divorce would have been finalized in one month.... basically a rubber stamp.
The firm had already started to prepare the paperwork for a joint filing and had suggested that we sign it separately to avoid a face-to-face meeting. Two days later, my wife emailed the law firm at 11:00 pm to say that she would NOT be filing for divorce, with no prior discussion with me or the firm. WTF?
So ..... I will be filing for divorce by myself next week but this route will take three months to complete.
I can't imagine the reason for this flip flip but I won't be phoning to ask her about it. I think the reasons listed below are all equally likely:
- She wants to remain on my benefits for an extra two months before she has to pay on her own.
- She's not ready to 'let go' and needs more time to emotionally prepare for our final divorce.
- A continuation of her attitude: "None of the problems in our marriage were my fault; why should I have to file?"
- She's attempting to get out of paying the final $1,700 fee for the divorce. Our Agreement specifies that each of us pays 50% of the cost, but if she reneges on this (as I expect her to), I will have to go through my lawyer to her lawyer to recover that money.
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As a result, she'll never move on to an exciting, happy new life. She will "do battle" regarding our obligations in our Agreement until it ends 6.5 years from now. Sorry, I'm not normally this pessimistic but that's my view at this moment.
I've been chatting quite a bit lately with an interesting local guy who I met on pof.com. He's 47, two years out of a relationship, fully out, good-looking, successful and has ambitions and long-term goals. He's also close to his family ..... he has an older foster son, supports his disabled brother and bought the house next door for his parents.
When I say "chatting", I mean in the old-fashioned sense by talking on the telephone.
We plan to meet in person soon but so far, our work and family obligations and some hesitancy on my part have prevented this from happening. I am hesitant because he is the first local guy I've met who might seriously be "marriage material" and I'm just not ready for that. It is so much easier to hook up with my 22 year old chew toys; all fun and games with no serious thought or decisions required.
After last night's conversation, he sent me this message on POF:
My new friend: Thanks for the opportunity to talk. You have a warmth to your voice. And a inflection of sexuality.
Buddy Bear: Thanks! I really enjoyed chatting with you as well. As to the "inflection of sexuality", I know that I have a bit of a gay-sounding voice.
My new friend: I was referring to your voice in the manner of someone who can talk pillow talk, the kind of voice that can bring you to orgasm with out even touching....... :)
Too funny! But **blush** I know that he's right.