Ass to the fire

I meant "ass to the fire" literally and wasn't alluding to some more marital drama.  We had our fourth evening of burning brush and other wood waste here at my new home.   Darkness had fallen so I decided it was time for another bare-assed pic of me.

Tonight, I have my first "alone" time in a couple of weeks as all the kids are staying at my wife's tonight to meet  an  out-of-town relative.   I won't be alone long as my son is returning the next night and one of my daughters the night after that. For tonight at least,  my special guy and I plan to make the most of it.

Mother's Day

All pics (except the last one) are from ucantaketheboyoutofthecountry.tumblr.com/

I was concerned that my wife would be angry / upset / bitter because our three kids spent Mother's Day with me.  It was the weekend and they all wanted to be at my waterfront home.  We had a fantastic, conflict-free time and also had grandma and grandpa (my parents) join us for dinner.

Two of the kids said that Mom knew of their Sunday plans and seemed okay with them;  they had done their "Mother's Day" stuff with her earlier in the weekend.  My son, who still doesn't want to have anything to do with her, spent part of the morning with me at my wife's house, cutting down several monstrous shrubs with his chain saw.

I'd offered to haul them away in my trailer (in three loads) and burn them at my country place since I had a burning permit.  Apparently, she saw that as my son's Mother's Day present to her, so everything is good, as far as I know, anyway.

This is the guest house at my new place:  a very exciting log building with a barn-style roof and a loft.

Chatting with the 20-somethings

In the past week, I've been messaged by six or more young 'uns (20s) but no men in their 40s and 50s. I really am looking for someone in my age range (my profile says so!), although there's a whiff of "Methinks he doth protest too loudly!" in that statement.   Here's a sampling of a few of them:

A "bored university student" messaged me: 
 im not really "out" but i recently started experimenting and find myself to be more of a "bttm" so i preferably would be looking for a top. You into younger guys?

His profile said, of course, "seeking a woman" yet we exchanged messages off and on for a couple of days, all sexual in nature and all pushed along by him.  On Day 3, my message to him was blocked as he'd changed his message settings, "accepting messages from women only."  That was the end of that!  Another 20-something flake!

A hung, 26 year old baseball-playing guy with an "athletic body type was seeking his first (he claimed) blowjob from a man.   He claimed to be straight and said he had a girlfriend, but this begs the question:  How many straight young men spend their Saturday nights cruising middle-aged gay guys on hookup sites?   I seriously considered his proposition but (1)  he couldn't host, (2) it was 11:00 pm, past my bedtime and (3) I had some of my kids at home with me.  Still, I was tempted....


A 23 year old Hispanic dude and I have been exchanging messages for several days.
He wrote:so what if you came n picked me up tonight wed spend the night together n u drive me home for 11am? or u cant do that tonight or w,e?    He was fairly handsome but a bit chubby in his profile pic.  He seemed a very sweet young man based on our conversation.  I'm considering him ....

And the sweetest message of all came from "Trey", the 22 year old sweet, shy, hunky Aboriginal construction worker and gay virgin I hooked up with in February.  Trey hadn't been online for three months but messaged to apologize for not contacting me.  Such good manners!  He's been out of town dealing with family issues but really wants to get together with me again as soon as possible.   Ka-ching!!!

For Jim's A pic-day-in-May challenge,:  we burned mountains of brush and scrap lumber in an effort to clean up the yard.  We wanted to get this done before the northern forest fire season begins, at which point all such burning is banned.

Seeing Lots of the Kids

My son's puppy likes the view from the rotten old boat.

Over a year ago, I wrote about seeing less of my three children after my wife and I separated for the final time.  At that time, getting used to being alone was the biggest adjustment I had to made although I was only alone for a day or two each week.     

Typically,  my son and wife are in constant conflict.  Last week, they had a screaming fight which resulted in him moving out "permanently."   While I know that 15 year old boys aren't always easy to deal with, my son and I rarely have conflict.  My wife just pisses people off all the time, snoops and meddles in her children's private spaces and then gets angry when no one takes her unsolicited and ill-advised advice.

Of course, I was unaware of any of this until my wife phoned to pick him up.   He showed up with duffle  bags of clothing, his carpentry tools, computer, X- boxes, a smallish flat-screen TV and the like. I told him he had to see is mother sometimes and he said, "I'll stay at her house one day a week and that's it!!!"

Despite my concerns of a year ago,  "seeing less of the kids" turned out to be no problem at all.   I quickly discovered that having an evening or two by myself was a blissful respite from the usual routine.   The times I did spend with my kids became more special when we didn't see each other all the time.  It was also nice to have my Special Guy over for a private evening or even an overnight visit without having to make complicated arrangements.

In fact, I am now trying to hard to banish the thought from my mind that I am now seeing "too much" of the kids.  I often have all three of them here at my waterfront home, especially on the weekends and will have all three here for most of the summer.  Just this week alone, I had to turn down hookup opportunities from two sweet 20ish guys this week because I couldn't host.  This won't do!!

For Sean's Dogably Pawfect Saturday, here are a  few pics from http://menwithbeardswithdogs.tumblr.com/

Thighs

As I was about to leave a hookup last month, the other guy told me, "I like your thighs!" Mine are a bit flabby now, but when I'm running or skiing a lot, I like them too!

While I love all parts of a man's body, I think that beefy thighs and a generous ass are my favourites. They look fantastic in any setting especially wrapped around my naked torso with those big muscles squeezing me tight as possible.  Another favourite is a pair of muscular thighs generously filling out a pair of jeans. 

Full Frontal

Full frontal, but not of me. Sorry about that!  All pics from nakedriders.tumblr.com/

*This post is part of a blogger challenge started over at Jim’s Stuff. Check out his blog, as well as the following Bloggers who have joined

I'd like to welcome a new addition to the challenge, Mike of Random Thoughts in my Life:

Random Thoughts in my Life

Jim at Jim’s Stuff

Sean at Just a Jeep Guy

Kelly at Rambling Along in Life

Erik at Gambrinous with Griffonage

Buddy at One Step at a Time

This business of separating real estate, bank accounts, insurance policies, car ownerships and the like is complicated, time-consuming and requires a high degree of cooperation. I can't imagine getting through this if the couple was in any way adversarial.... no wonder divorce lawyers make so much money!  So far, ours is mainly a do-it-yourself affair with both of highly committed to keeping our costs down.

My wife and I had another face-to-face encounter yesterday at the licensing office to transfer ownership of our jointly-owned cars to single.  Our insurers required this for our new policies.

It was pretty tense as my wife was again angry, exhausted, and seemed confused about some recent conversations.  She refused to meet my eye but the licensing office lady (bless her) got us through the ordeal with her perceptiveness and efficiency.

But there might have been other issues at play.  My wife's leg / knee problems were making it hard for her to walk.  These problems are caused by (in my opinion) a big weight gain and her refusal to seek medical help, but of course, she prefers to blame it all on me.  "It's from the stress of having a gay husband!!"    And, as my middle daughter texted me later, my wife and my son had been screaming at each other all day.  Fun times!

Freeballing II

Photo-a-day-in-May Blogger Challenge. Here are some lichens, mosses and sedum growing on a sheet of bare rock in my front yard.  The sedum will be blooming soon.

My most viewed post, Freeballing, has had 10,476 page views.  I think it behooves me to post some fresh freeballing pics.    I think there's nothing hotter than see a young guy's cock outlined in track pants or shorts.  It's a pretty common sighting... I see a lot of 'em in my line of work.    

Longer cocks will flop while shorter ones jiggle. I find each equally appealing.  It's the movement of the cock which is the important part to me;  so much the better if a guy is running.


I also enjoy seeing jiggling cocks of older men as well, but only if they are relatively fit.  A belly hanging over the bulge spoils the effect!

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