Spousal Support (NSFW)

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I continue to spend too much time talking to lawyers and bankers, utility and insurance companies.  Minor glitches arose regarding the sales and purchases of our homes as well as the on-going divorce.   It's a very complicated business, even with our high level of cooperation!   I can't imagine how couples survive a highly adversarial divorce!!


My wife signed off, giving me full title to my waterfront home.  But at the last moment, the bank wouldn't release my mortgage money (previously approved) without a spousal support agreement.  So my ownership of the waterfront home remains in limbo for now. .... a concern.


Although our salaries are identical, my wife is seven years older and retiring in three weeks.  This would have caused a serious income differential with my salary about 2.5x greater than her pension income.  

My lawyer said alimony payable by me should be in the range of $1,300 to $2,000 per month.   My wife and I knew full well that I would be forced to sell the waterfront home because I couldn't manage both the mortgage and this amount of alimony.  |

We both are highly committed to keeping our waterfront home in the family;  for the kids, it's not just a home but a way of life.  In fact, my wife offered me the property at some 20% below it's appraised value;  all I had to do is buy her out for 1/2 of the reduced amount.   It was very generous because the prices of these waterfront homes continue to skyrocket.

At our lawyer-mediator session, my wife and I agreed on $1,200 / month spousal support but payable only for seven years until I reach the age that she is now.  We felt this more than fair.

Yesterday, to my total shock, my wife offered to lower the amount to $1,000 / month, but with the option of returning to the $1,200 amount should a need arise.   Wow!!  Where did that come from?

A couple of my wife' s best friends (who are also my friends) felt that I was not being treated fairly in our financial arrangements.  Their view not correct, based on my discussions with my lawyer,  "She agreed to that?!" 

I strongly suspect they used their influence to get my wife to lower the alimony.   Our friends are highly supportive of me,  seeing how hard I've worked to keep our family unit somewhat intact and to get my wife settled in her new home.   One friend of my wife appreciated "how I haven't been behaving in a sleazy manner since coming out"..... little do they know the truth about my slut phase!

"Curious" guys

Love the package!  Wish he didn't shave / wax his legs!

This week on pof.com, I've been messaged by six guys who've never been with a man but would like to try it, or so they say.  That's a deluge of messages because in some weeks, I don't get a single one.  I think they're attracted to my profile because of my relative inexperience with men.  I probably seem "safe" to them, a nice guy which in fact, I am.

I've chatted at length with with these three and all seemed like nice Canadian guys.... extremely appealing.  Bring on the fit blue-collared guys with great hands!

• friendly male, 51, 6' 1" about 195 lbs, longish wavy brown hair, I'm a carpenter, rugged good looks
• 31 year old construction worker, athletic body type, I like playing sports, going to the gym, camping and fishing
• 25 year old heavy equipment mechanic, I am an easy going, fun, hard working guy.  (and also gorgeous... from his profile pics)  

 
The 51 year old (divorced) carpenter was "tingling with excitement" just chatting with a me, he said.  I'm feeling optimistic about this sexy carpenter!  He can host but lives some 30 miles away so the logistics pose a problem.

The 31 year old said he "picked me" for his first M2M experience, but after weeks of chatting, off and on, he keeps flaking out.  He's just not ready for the next step so I'm not holding my breath about this one.

The handsome 25 year old described me as his "last chance" to have a positive experience with a guy.   He has had several not-so-great experiences with guys and was ready to give up.  I disputed the " last chance" comment, saying that there were so many great guys out there, just waiting for him to find them.   He was actively planning our first hookup but last week, I just wasn't available.  I hope I didn't let this one  get away!

More often than not, these 'gay virgins' flake out in the end but I'm finding 'the hunt', the online flirting, a pleasant diversion.

Here's the back of my house which is actually facing the street.  What we call the front of the house faces the water.  It can best be described as "rambling"... this pic only shows a small part of it.

Manly-men in jockstraps

My daughter's grade 12 graduation last night was to have been the first time my parents and my wife had a face-to-face encounter in over a year.  I was pretty tense because my wife told me before the event,  "Well! ..... when I see your parents I'm going to tell them off!!   Your parents think that I'm after their money!!!"    Hmmm .... Do you think maybe that's because you are after their money?

 Right from the beginning of our marriage, my wife caused a series of conflicts with my parents and siblings which created a much tension at family gatherings;   I was constantly stuck in the middle.   As a result, we saw less and less of them.

It didn't help that she came across to them as being greedy, "That's a nice lamp .... can I have it?"  So when I told my parents last October that my wife, their daughter-in-law-from-hell, was demanding half of my future inheritance when they died (+10 years from now?), that was the last straw.   They were forced to take legal steps to protect their assets, basically by disinheriting me.

As my mother and I walked into the auditorium lobby, sure enough, my wife was sitting right in front of us with my mother-in-law.   She turned to face the other way to avoid contact with us.  My mother and I walked on by.  My father, following behind us (who is a very classy guy), greeted them warmly, gave my M-I-L a hug and shook my wife's hand before she could take evasive action.

After the ceremony, families gathered in the lobby for pictures with their graduating sons and daughters.   My daughter was hoping for one pic with both her parents but it wasn't to be.   When my wife spotted us, she ran away and  remained in hiding until we left the building.   She's always been a coward!

ps:    One unexpected bonus of my marriage breakdown has been a rebuilding of the relationship between my parents and me.  Now, we talk on the phone daily and see each other many times a week.  They feel free to pop over any time they want.... although I hope that this doesn't happen if / when I am "entertaining" a man friend.

Cyclists' spandex bulges

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One unexpected drive-home bonus is the many hot men in spandex bicycling the "cyclists paradise" country highway near where I live.

The cyclists are mainly mature men aged 30+ and all extremely fit with amazing asses and beautiful, muscular thighs pumping up and down.  To a man, they're all dressed in tight spandex cycling suits. 

The shinier suits in particular show off the flexing of thigh muscles, the hollows at the sides of their tight asses and little jiggles as the bike hits a crack in the road.  On lighter coloured suits, a trickle of sweat can sometimes be seen running down between those muscular ass cheeks.  Sluurp!

As I drive by, I can't resist looking back to check out the guy's face and bulge.   I love now the nose of the bicycle seat pushes up on the guy's cock and balls;  you know what they say, 'accentuate the positve!'

In my next life, I want to come back as the nose of a bicycle seat.   I'm getting hard just imagining being gripped those muscular, sweaty thighs, being pressed up against a guy's spandex-clad package.  Grrrr!

Pride 2012

Kelly of Rambling along in Life has an annual Pride Challenge:  his pic of the Pride flag will be posted to right for the month of June.

Last year, my little town had it's first ever week-long Pride celebration including a small LGBTQ film festival, a 'drag queen' night and a day-long family Pride picnic at the local waterfront park.  It was a huge success and promises to be even better this year.  

Please check out my posts about last year's event, here and here.     I find some of my old posts quite embarrassing, but these ones hold up well.  Last year, I could only attend the picnic for about 30 minutes due to a very serious spinal condition which I was recovering from. 

At last year`s Pride, I was a newbie middle-aged gay guy.   I had been 'out' to my family (and myself) for just five months and was the ultimate in gay virgins.... had never kissed or hugged a guy, much less had a cock in my mouth.  Not only had I not done any of these things, I couldn't even imagine being with a guy.

Boy, what a difference a year makes!  I have a million times more confidence in my skills and desirability as a gay man. In the past nine months, I've have quite a bit of experience in kissing guys and sucking cock and know that I'm good at it.  Damn good, in fact!   And the more sex I have with men, I find myself craving it more and more.

I hope to attend ALL of this year`s Pride events.   I will know a number of people there but most likely I will attend by myself.  I have no problem at all doing this;  in fact, I find being solo frees me up to strike up conversations with any random person I feel like.

What I`d REALLY, REALLY like to do is to attend a major Pride event such as the one in Toronto.   Since my son is living with me full time, the arrangements may be a bit difficult, unless I get one of his sisters to `hold down the fort.`   There's also the money issue, as is "lack of..."  We`ll see.....

Dogably Pawfect Saturday

There seems to be a inexhaustible supply hot guy / cute dog pics for Sean's Dogably Pawfect Saturday.  These came from men and their dogs.

These pics remind me that here in the Great White North, we are finally getting some warmish weather, 21 C (70 F), so hot guys of all ages are out in cargo shorts and tank tops.  Woo-hoo!!   One year ago at this time, as a newly-out gay virgin, I allowed myself to appreciate for the first time all these lovely summer boys and men.

Now that I'm having sex with men on a regular basis, this is happening again but with ten times the intensity.   I not only notice and appreciate their physical beauty, their masculinity, but imagine myself having sex with them, with my lips wrapped around their cocks.  I try to make eye contact with the summer men to see which are gay and notice which of them are checking me out.

I feel like I'm obsessed, but in the most pleasant and exciting way.   All of a sudden, it's a whole world of possibilities which I never even considered before ....

Transparent when wet

These are my last pics for the pic-a-day-in-May blogger challenge, slightly late. It's been fun and a bit of a challenge indeed, especially when I decided that the pics should be of me, me, me. I much prefer posting about 3 days per week (less pressure!) and it allows more of a 'conversation' to develop in the comments.

Online, there are many sexy pics of guys wearing wet, white transparent garments that look hot, hot, hot. I tried to re-create the effect in my morning rush to work this morning; not the same effect at all! What I really need is a professional (& gay) photographer and a fluffer to get the hottest picture.

 My mother-in-law (81 years) arrived in town from her home 2,000 miles away to attend my daughter's grade 12 graduation. After one day at my wife's house, I was told that she is coming to stay with me for a while. Just for the weekend? For the month? I don't know! I had given my blessing to her staying with me, her gay ex-son-in-law earlier. She and my wife DON'T get along... but in fact, my wife doesn't get along with anyone, really.

 My M-I-L has always treated me like a prince and took my gayness and my marriage breakdown in stride. I posted it about it here. So.... I have a bit of full house here right now: two or three dogs, two to three kids and an ex-mother-in-law. At this point,  when arranging a hookup, I definitely cannot host!
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