Tuesday, January 6, 2015

Cocks in Union Suits

We're in the middle of a deep freeze with overnight temperatures dipping to -33 C.  I'm in full hibernation mode:  once I get home from school, all I want is to be tucked in bed with my two doggies.

I've been wearing a union suit (I own several) all week which are fantastic for warmth. As well, I feel as sexy as hell wearing them unbuttoned down to there....

I've posted about my attraction to hunky men in long johns, before.  None of today's pictures of are of me, but I have posted my own union suit pictures here in 2012 and some 2013 pics;  a front view here and a back view here.

STORY #1.  There was much ex-spousal drama this week because my son, travelling back to school, was marooned in a far-away airport for just over 24 hours due to freezing rain.  After months of little contact, she sent me dozens of texts, most of them bossy and annoying and some quite abusive, as we tried to make other make other arrangement for our son.

As always happens in these situations, dealing with the crisis at hand is usually easy enough;  dealing with my ex-wife's hysterical over-reaction and her escalating anger is always a challenge.

My son, who just turned 18, took it all in stride and is now safely at his home, but he grew fed up with his mother's micromanaging texts.   In mid-crisis, my son cut off communication with her, putting me smack in the middle of their texting triangle.

At one point, my wife phoned me about five times to try to scream at me in person but I refused to pick up. 

All is well now, but this incident just strengthens my resolve to have her out of my life entirely, to cut off all communication.  Since we have three kids in common,  I know this may not be possible.

STORY#2:  On Sunday,   had my fourth date with a great guy.   Two were "coffee dates" and two dates were dates where we walked my dog, cooked lunch and spent many, many hours cuddling in bed and making out  He's 46, 6'-2", bearish, handsome as hell, sweet, very funny, intelligent and a hopeless romantic who wears his heart on his sleeve.   And he seems really interested in me as well.

One big issue is that Mr. Perfect has a deeply broken heart.  It is his first entry in the gay dating pool after he ended a 20 year relationship four weeks ago with a man who he says he still loves.

His ex cheated on him repeatedly with many men including many of their "best" ftiends and lied about it repeatedly Mr. Perfect is deeply scarred by all of this and understands that it may take many years to get over his failed 20 year relationship.  As well, he needs to have his own Slut Phase!

Sadly, Mr.  Perfect is moving to a major city some 1,000 miles away to start a new job in two weeks.   He not only dumped his ex, he's selling the house they owned jointly, changing jobs and cities.  It's his time for a big adventure..... but from my point of view, the timing couldn't have been worse!

But I now have a special new friend;  we will see each other every now and then, I know.  But he opened my eyes to the possibility of what it would be like to be in an LTR with a quality man.

I'll keep you posted!






9 comments:

  1. Interesting little bit of movement toward an eventual LTR. And this Mr. "6' 2" bearish handsome as hell man" brings up a core question for gay men in relationships: monogamy or open? When gay marriage happened a lot of gay "fundamentalists," if you will, wrote warning of impending assimilation, the "end of gay," and how now we were all going to be forced to be in monogamous marriages. I said, bullshit, we're gay and we make our own rules; the goal of any liberation movement is to free us to live our lives as we wish, not to force us to march in lockstep with an imposed ideology, not that there is anything like universal monogamy in heterosexual marriage anyway.

    Shortly after meeting Fritz and our realization that something astounding and wonderful was growing quickly between us, he said something very wise: "We're gay, sex happens." Your latest gentleman's breaking things off due to the other man having sex outside the relationship brings this issue to the fore. We have many friends in gay marriages who entertain other men singly or together, remaining deeply in love and committed. The same is true of us, and when we have gatherings for the sweat lodge, or the big New Years multi-day house party or for erotic massage, sex happens -- and everything's just fine. If it's true, as many psychologists maintain, that men are simply not wired for monogamy, then this is a very sensible arrangement, assuming that nobody does anything stupid like purposely hurting his partner over an encounter. In any event, it's something worth thinking about for the future, should it ever become the right time for you to be in an LTR.

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    1. Yes, Will, thank you for that experienced and very thoughtful view on the 'openness' of gay partnerships. My new friend was lied to repeatedly (and for years) by his ex about his hookups with other men.

      So, they did not have open and honest communication which would have helped the situation. I think the ex was trying to be deliberately hurtful in his actions and there might also have been balance of power issues as well.

      When I am in an LTR one day, I hope to entertain gentleman callers WITH my special man, However, I wouldn't want a situation where he screwing every man in town while I waited at home; or the reverse situation, either.

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  2. Oh, and those last two guys just scream 3-way at me! :-)

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    1. I agree completely! They look so cuddly... and very hot!

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  3. your son is 18 years old and an adult and intelligent. he can handle his own affairs and doesn't need his mommy telling him what to do. the older the kids get, the less contact you can have with the ex. and you handled it well - no phone calls or texts, just ignore.

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    1. Thank you for your words of wisdom, anne marie! I really do look forward to having less and less contact with her. My therapist feels that she will only get worse as she ages: more bossy, angry and harder to deal with.

      My wife and I did have to text a great deal as some of the flight bookings (which had to be changed) were made by me and some were made her.

      So we had to be in close collaboration as we made new arrangements, so in the end, everything worked out regarding my son's flights.

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  4. So sorry you had to deal with the ex that way. But I understand. Oddly enough, I was messaged via facebook by a former scout one night. He'd gone to Russia for a summer term, and was stranded in NYC because of screwed up flights with no money, and no cell phone (but a WiFi iPad - go figure). I was the middleman between him and his parents (who now do facebook) as they figured out what to do. He also carries an international mobile phone and a fricking credit card when he travels now (he is in Italy with his university marching band right now). Fortunately, there was no bossiness or nonsense!

    It's great you have a special friend!!! I know exactly how you feel! I just got done with the "I love you"s with RB! That's awesome!!

    Peace <3
    Jay

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    1. Yes, Jay, we communicated because with were forced to and in the end, it worked out fairly well.

      "I love you" sounds great! Congratulations!

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    2. Thanks! It was really cool!!!
      Jay

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