I understand that relaxation is very important in this situation. My regular guy and I were together for a long time, about five hours, and he'd commented that he'd never seen me so relaxed. But I'm not sure if that outward relaxation extends to being relaxed "down there."
So, with much lube, a lot of time, gentleness and caring I received about half of the length before I'd had enough. The verdict was "extremely tight."
I understand that bottoming for the first time can be a big deal, so I know it will get better. While I wouldn't describe it as "painful", it wasn't particularly comfortable and there was little pleasure involved at that moment.
I also suspect the position I was in, lying face down on the bed, might not have been the best choice.... I must look into some of the other options. I am like the "Little Engine that Could".... "I thnk I can, I think I can....", so we intend to try it again. I'm not going to give up that easily!
My final thoughts:
- I could not imagine, not in a million years, bottoming for someone who you didn't know, trust and feel a great deal of affection for.
- Hundreds of millions of people have bottomed before me; if they can do it, so can I.
- I thought of people who have been anally raped (such as those poor 10 year old boys in the shower at Penn State.) I'm horrified and sickened at the thought of the terrible abuse and pain they must have endured....