Today's pics are a nod to the major regional triathlon which I attended recently. I was there for only one reason: to check out the beautifully-fit, athletic men in spandex: beefy thighs, flat bellies, spectacular bulges and asses galore. So hot!
But I've been feeling rather BLAH! lately as in less than two weeks, I will be undergoing a major life transition: The Empty Nest. I think this will be even more of an adjustment than my coming-out and divorce journey.
I haven' t lived alone for some 24 years and most of the years in between have extremely busy, balancing a demanding job, dealing with my wife's anger and erratic behaviour, raising three kids and being heavily involved in their lives.
Now, I will be in this big place all by myself (with two sweet dogs) and the thought makes me a
Next week, I'll be helping my eldest daughter (22.5 years old) move into a small apartment in town. In three weeks, both my middle daughter (nearly 20) and my son (nearly 18) will be attending schools some 2,000 km and 3,000 km away, respectively.
This summer, I've been trying to strike a balance, including:
-working on some major and endless renovation projects.
-a backlog of household cleaning
-organizing, still, from my move two years ago.
-relaxing, doing absolutely nothing.
-daily athletic pursuits (kayaking, cycling and swimming)
-visiting my elderly parents most days.
-aving the occasional hookup with some hot man. (by the way, I've had several spectacular encounters, recently!)
But my focus is doing stuff with my kids in the rare occasion that they're not working or hanging out with friends or staying at my former wife's house. My time with them is running out quickly. :-(
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Congratulations! I know it will be strange to not have the busyness of it all but this is your time to relax. Take advantage cause you never know how Long it will last. Wish you the best. And. Nice packages by the w ay !
ReplyDeleteThanks, Mark! Yes, you are correct. I know that I will be okay with living alone. I LOVED living alone between the ages of 22 (when I left my parents' house) to 28 when I got married.
DeleteThe desire to live alone is one reason that I do not want to get seriously involved with anyone else right now.
there, there, buddybear (pats you on the shoulder)
ReplyDeletethe kids will miss you too, even though they will love the freedom. your oldest sounds like she will be nearby, but terribly busy as a chef. the little birds will retain what you taught them.
kinda scary/exciting/bewildering/sad all at once new path in your life. wishing and hoping for the best for you and the kids.
Thanks, sweetie! You're my biggest supporter!
DeleteYes, my oldest will be living 30 minute drive away and I will probably see her (maybe) weekly. She will still be at school full time, working about about 1/3 time as a cook, setting up her new home, looking after her little doggie and attending to her own social live. She'll be even busier than me!
Each of us, my three kids and me, will be embarking on a new and exciting path. :-)
Going to be cheesy...but we borrow them only for a while. But I'm sure they'll be back for visits and think of all the advanteges you have these days, like skype for example. I'm very happy my mom is not afraid of new technologies so I can skype with her.
ReplyDeleteAnd and well, there is this saying: While they are small, give them roots, when they are old enough, give them wings.
I think you did well and they won't remember their roots.
Hi Kat,
DeleteThank you for your words of experience and wisdom. My wife and I did a fantastic job in instilling self-confidence and self-sufficiency in our kids, in particular financial self-sufficiency.
I am enormously proud of them and know that they will do well as they make their way in the world.
As well, I know that they will be back. Our region is unique in the world and is extremely special. For anyone who was born and raised here, it will always be in their blood. :-)
It's inevitable -- the day I turned the car around from delivering my younger daughter to college and started driving home, I got a little teary eyed. But all of us came through and I know you will, too. You are now too well established with some gay social and community activities to be isolated and there are, of course, all the guys waiting to come over and fill your evening hours.
ReplyDeleteBig hugs from me and I wish you all the best -- your three wonderful children are a fine tribute to your love and superior parenting. You're going to have a great new phase of life beginning now.
Thanks, Will, for your kind words. :-)
DeleteHave you added a turnstile to your home renovations and a stat counter by your pad or in the love nest?
ReplyDeleteYou haven't said it and I think you might not even realize it but you have a Lycra fetish. It's not just the pics you post which is higher in average than any of your other themes but also in how to write about them and your reaction when you see them live.
Have you added them to your sex life yet? fetish's of any kind are hare to introduce on the first date. ;)
Turnstile? Stat counter? You're such a kidder, Sean!
DeleteWith your excellent knowledge of all things gay, I will accept your view that I have a Lycra fetish. But don't ALL gay men love to look at a hot man in spandex?
I love the view from all sides... how it clings to a man's inner thighs and around his ass cheeks and on the front side, how it can reveal the curve of a a cock and whether or not it might be cut or uncut, with balls hanging below. So hot!
So, Sean, how would you add spandex to your sex life? I would consider getting a white pair of spandex shorts and / or speedos in various sizes. Not for myself, necessarily, but to get the hunk I'm with to put them on during sex play.
It would be extremely hot, rubbing his stiffening cock through the spandex. Sluurp!
I wouldn't for me but if it was something he enjoyed then it would be no problem for me. The men I've know into Lycra love it not just for the look but for how it feels against the sin and the feeling and chills the one wearing feels when hands rub and caress and kiss and blow on and thru the fabric as it clings to his skin.
DeleteI love those bulges. Because I got a bulge too..
ReplyDeleteRight on! How about e-mailing me a pic of your bulge, in spandex of course!
DeleteYes! Let's see your bulge!
Deletegood for you! im in the same boat-kids 24,21,18 still home ,but i love that ;) last one going into college;( for some reason i thought they would always be small and we would always be together having fun as a family(wrong!) they grow up! good idea about a guy watch! love when they sweat! things i would love to do in private with them after their run-that first cock looks sooooo hot and sweaty-wonder what his crack looks and smells like ;0........
ReplyDeleteThanks for commenting!
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