Sleeping Naked

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I often sleep naked during hot humid weather. Now, however, I always think of being  nekkid with Hottie Nurse, our arms and legs wrapped around each other, his head on my chest....

I'd love to cuddle with any of these guys.  Any favourite men (or poses) from the pics below?

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12 of 12

Congratulations to Cubby of Patently Queer who was my 23,000th visitor today!   This blog was started just over six months ago and has had 48,209 page views (not including mine) and 1156 comments (including many of mine as I comment on comments.)   I find it just unbelievable and gratifying that so many people are interested in my story and of course, all the pictures of hot men.  Thank you!

I know that among my readers are a great many gay / bi married, closeted fathers who are following this soap opera to see how it will turn out.   I wouldn't presume to offer anyone any advice, so I will stick to telling my story as honestly as I can, revealing as much personal detail as I am comfortable with.

Overall, my journey so far has gone far more smoothly than I ever thought possible.  One of the main reasons is that my wife, despite having had her life torn apart and despite many challenges in her life, has been remarkably supportive of me in  her own way.  She fully understands that any attempt to destroy me, socially, financially or however else,  would impact negatively on the kids and all our futures.

Another reason my journey is so smooth is among my circle of friends and family, my coming-out as gay has been a non-event. I've enjoyed the strongest possible support from everyone who knows;  my entire family, my wife's entire family, my wife's friends, my children, my mother-in-law and the few friends I've told.  I am certain that Canada's leadership in granting full protections and rights to LGBT folks has lead to this social acceptance.  

I will go out on a limb to say that I think being gay in Canada has become (or is becoming) the "new normal." 
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Blogger Chad Darnell has a project where people from all over the world take 12 pictures on the 12th of each month and post them on their blogs.  Check out everyone's pictures this month:  Chad's 12 of 12  link list.

I zoomed through town snapping pictures on this beautiful day, Friday August 12th.   The hottie summer men were everywhere!   I just wish I was brave enough to take more pictures of them to share with you!

#1:   A beautiful park in the centre of town near my workplace.    I try to have lunch here when I can.

#2:   My shirt is just poofed out;  my gut really isn't that big!  The ice cream cone isn't helping, of course.

#3:  A flip-flopped, cargo-shorted hottie heading into the liquor store.

#4:  Our town's "subway" is just a concrete tunnel running under some railway tracks.

#5:  The subway reeks of urine and is covered with lots of unimaginative graffiti.

#6:  An inner-city park.... the only people who come here are the residents of the nearby homeless shelter.

#7:   Weekend pierogi sales at the Legion Hall, made by old Polish ladies wearing babushkas.    Pierogis are potato / cheddar cheese dumplings, boiled or fried and served with sour cream and fried bacon, onions and mushrooms.  Carb heaven!  A weekly treat for me!

#8:  This small river cuts right through the centre of town.  It's looking a little murky because of recent rains, but it supports a healthy population of rainbow trout who spawn far upstream.

#9:  A successful inner-city community garden, built on a vacant lot.

#10:   Perve Alert!   A ginger-haired hottie, shot from my car window.

#11:  I had to include this Canadian flag!

#12:   A Ukranian Orthodic church in the older part of town.

Daddy

During my Big Gay Adventure last month, I set up my first profile on a gay hook-up site,  Adam4Adam  in the small(ish) city where I was staying.   In my profile, I used my actual face picture and several realistic pictures of me in my undies.  I described myself as a "late 40s gay virgin."

I was struck by the number of unattractive, fat middle-aged guys who specified on their profiles, "Only interested in guys 20 - 25 years old."   Are they delusional?  Do they ever get any responses?

The biggest surprise for me:  of the five guys who seriously responded to my profile, three were in the 28 - 30 year old group.  I just don't understand why a young guy would be interested in someone twenty years older!   There wasn't much interest from men in my own age group.

The first guy was a 28 year old who wanted to play, pictured at left.  I couldn't believe that someone so young wanted to have sex with me so I messaged him saying, "You do know that I am twenty years older than you, right?"   He responded.  "I don't care.  U R hot."   Funny!..... and a bit of a confidence booster!    Sadly, neither of us could host and with my 12 hour per day course schedule and his work schedule, we didn't get together.

The second response came from Hottie Nurse.  I've described that special encounter several times already, My Gay Virginity Lost! , Doing the Nasty and Afterglow.

I got a several messages from the sweet young man pictured  below.   Sexy body, sweet face, beautiful smile, an athlete.  He complimented me on my profile and my looks but seemed more focused on "finding a friend" and "seeking a LTR."

I thanked him for his interest but pointed out that I lived thousands of miles away, would be leaving town in several days and was not available for a relationship.  To be honest, I became increasingly interested in meeting him; he was so sweet and so hot!  ... but I was leaving town the next day.

He sent several more messages similar to the first;  he seemed so lonely.  I felt sorry for him and finally suggested to him that Adam4Adam  probably was not the place to find a LTR.  Couldn't he find a nice gay soccer or football

league to join, or some other gay social group?

In the world of heterosexual dating,  no 28 year old woman would ever be interested in a guy who was +20 years older unless he was rich.

The question:   why are some younger gay guys so interested in being with men who are decades older than them?

Shirtless Boys in Boats

My kids and I spend about six hours on the water yesterday and had a wonderful time!  It was a nice escape from packing up my house for sale and the incredible stress of our 'division of assets' discussions.

We saw plenty of  shirtless, flat-bellied young men all day long, like these ones pictured.   I try to be discrete when ogling hot guys in the presence of my children.  I often wonder if they notice;  teenagers can be a lot more perceptive than we give then credit for!

When I was in my  20s, my belly was not only perfectly flat, it was actually concave.  Not only did I not appreciate it, I just assumed that my flat belly would be with me forever.  Ah.... the innocence of youth!. 

Seeing these young men brought back fond memories of my childhood and young adult life with my brothers, cousins and friends.  In in the summer, we were on the water constantly.

That's one thing I find so appealing about men of all age;  they don't lose the ability to have some childish fun.   The few women I saw yesterday were sitting on the shore and in all likelihood, tsk-tsking, "Men!!  Will they ever grow up!!"



All pictures are from http://photobucket.com/ 

Five on Fifth

Steven Chapman says:
"Take 5 photographs on the days leading up to the 5th and publish those on your own blog and then add the link to my blog,  State of the Nation UK so that others can see your images."You can either take 5 random pictures or follow this month's theme, which is: MY TOWN

I was 'on the fly' between doctors' appointments, so I quickly stopped in a city park to take my pics.

A formal flower garden

Count me in!

This is among the most recognizable flags in the world.

Phallic symbol.

This ship's bell was cast in Troy, New York in 1884.

Be careful what you ask for...

The Untamed Man

Recently, I've been in the middle of "The Perfect Storm" of many stressful events all happening at once.  All of this is taking it's toll on my spine, my health in general and my usual positive, sunny disposition.  

Everything will resolve itself just fine, I'm sure.  I just need to keep pushing ahead, however frightening and uncertain it might be.  There is no turning back, that's for sure!!!

Lest you think I'm boo-hooing.... "Oh gosh, poor me!",  my wife is even more severely affected by all this.  She became sick to her stomach after each of our settlement conversations so we are taking a week or two off from any further discussions.  She is not nearly so confident about having a happy, exciting future as I am.


So... since I'm too bummered out to think of anything original,  I am ripping off this post from Erik Rubright, that sweet, sexy tattoo artist / blogger from Arkansas.

Ask me a question about EACH (or any) of the following and I will post an answer:

1. Friends
2. Sex
3. Music
4. Religion
5. Love
6. Blogging 

The Untamed Man

Ask me anything and I will answer it.  I challenge some of the lurkers readers who have never commented to ask a question or two.  Please, I'd really love to hear from you!

Sexy flag-men

Sweaty and ripe construction worker undies.

I have spent many years observing guys in their 20s (and younger) ogling my teenage daughters when we're out in public.  I've become accustomed to this and in fact, it doesn't trouble me at all.   I well understand the horniness of a young man with aching balls, the tingling in his nether regions as he looks at my stunningly beautiful daughters.

Since I came out as gay, this scenario has changed quite a bit.   What now happens is that I am ogling the 20-something hottie dude who is ogling my 17 year old daughter.  This seems so wrong, somehow!   

I was reminded of this yesterday when I drove my daughter a few hours up a remote highway to her job-related commitment.  There was much road construction and delay;  we were stopped by about ten flag-men.  Every one was a college boy (early 20s), each with a scruffy, unshaven face and slim body,  Sexy!!  Their frat-boy youthfulness nicely contrasted with their work-boots, Carhartt workers' jeans and hard hats.  Sadly, none of them was shirtless because of the ever-present hordes of black flies, mosquitoes, deer flies and horse flies.

After my "conquest" with the 28 year old Hottie Nurse, my gay sexual self-confidence has increased ten-fold.   I now go around thinking that I'm some irresistible sex magnet, God's gift to gay men. Delusional, I know!!  The reality is that I'm just another tubby, middle-aged gay guy.

All the construction boys we saw were way cuter than these guys.

As we slowly drove by the construction sites, every single one of the hottie flag men stared intently into our car.  My immediate thought was, "Gosh, I think he was checking me out!!!" 

After we passed by the third flag-man staring into our car, I suddenly had a reality check.... maybe, just maybe the those bored, horny young men were looking at my daughter.  She was sitting beside me, all flashing blonde hair, blue eyes, spaghetti-strapped top, voluptuous curves and cleavage.   It was a crushing realization!

This discovery was confirmed when I returned by myself in the car.  Of the ten or so flag men, nine of them showed not the slightest flicker of interest in me, not the slightest glance in my direction.  Only one of the hottie flag-men again stared into my car as I drove by.... hmmm.... maybe it wasn't too unreasonable to think that there was one gay guy in the group?