Tyranny of texting

My former wife sends hundreds of texts a week, trying to micro-manage the kids' activities and to a very much lesser extent, mine.  She's like a little Hitler   :-)  except uses texting rather than armies to get her way.

The kids find "being spammed by Mom" very annoying and are often resistant to her unsolicited advice.  She gets angry if they don't answer her texts instantly yet she might not reply for days.  I spent many years in our marriage tiptoeing around, afraid of provoking her anger so that now I constantly remind the kids that Mom's anger is her issue. 

But they generally have the strength of character to resist. The great advantage is that the kids have a choice.  My oldest daughter shrugged: "If Mom gets angry, that's her problem.  I'll just move in with you."

Because of our coming-out / divorce drama my wife and I hadn't filed our income taxes for the past four years. I was extremely concerned about Revenue Canda swooping down on us with threats of hefty fines or jail time.  

The problem was that our taxes were quite complicated and needed to be filed jointly. My wife had lost all the paperwork and was in no shape emotionally to cooperate.   But this spring, to her credit, she prepared four years' worth of both of our tax returns and the kids' tax returns as well. 
  
I just got back the Notice of Assessment and my refund was around $4,000 (woo-hoo!) and the late filing penalty was only $92.30.  What a relief, to have dodged that bullet!

Typically, my wife texted me to ask for copies so she could compare our refunds.  If they weren't equal, she said, one of us (meaning me) would give some of the refund to the other person. (meaning her)   I texted back: "No, our refunds won't be equal nor should they be."  Under Revenue Canada rules and our divorce agreement, I don't pay tax on my spousal support payments but she is taxed on them as income.

This prompted a torrent of texted abuse, "You think I'm out to take your money..."  (too late, she already has it, there's nothing left to take) "... and I'm out to cheat you... blah, blah, blah"  (I know she wouldn't cheat me).  But in the end, I held my ground and the topic was dropped.

Our worst texting conflict happened last night when I gave my son permission to drive some two hours with a friend to their family cottage.   I agreed but made the mistake of not clearing it with my wife.  My son's view on everything is:  "It's okay as long as Mom doesn't find out."

Somehow, she did find out and texted me about planned trip: who knew what and when?  She didn't think our son should be allowed to go (he just got his drivers' license the day before!) and tried to stop it. When I resisted her texted bossiness, she quickly became insulting and abusive.  Most unusually, she abandoned the texting and phoned to continue her tirade and name-calling.

I finally broke in to say that I no longer had to tolerate this sort of abuse.  If she couldn't speak respectfully, then we would not communicate at all.  I hung up the phone, unplugged it and shut off my cell phone.

Knowing how enraged she could become when thwarted, I worried that she would drive the short distance to my house to yell at me in person.  So I drove into town for a late-night visit to the grocery story and went to bed without turning my phones on again.

The whole episode left me exhausted and emotionally drained.  It reminded me in a flash of all the angry, bullying behaviour I dealt with during many years of our marriage.  I escaped!  And despite the financial hardships and the turmoil of divorce, it's all been worthwhile.

Porn star / ballet dancer

Porn star / ballet dancer Jeppe Hansen

Today's pics are from Men in ballet tights.   I had planned on filling everyone in on the details of my encounter with Spanking Fetish Dude.   But that will have to wait for my next post.

Right now, I'm busy preparing for a sweet visit with Big Red.  I'm picking him up soon and we plan to spend several hours in the Love Nest, cuddling, watching a bit of a movie, eating lunch, kissing sweetly and doing the nasty. 

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I've  never featured ballet dancers on this blog before but I was prompted by two things.

First came Whkatt's comments on my recent "beefy thighs" post:   "If you like strong thighs wrapped around you, try a dancer. Dancer's legs are the best - long, toned, and muscular..." 

Then, the gay blog world has been a-buzz with a story about a gay Canadian ballet dancer who was kicked out of the Royal Winnipeg Ballet School for doing gay porn.  The dancer Jeppe Hansen feels that his work in porn was artistic and that the ballet company was unfairly trying to define what constitutes art.

Check out this preview of Jeppe getting "artistic" with an 8" black dildo, or this one where he's is getting pounded by a big-cocked porn star.  Although I'm not at all into twinks, it's pretty hot!

 

 

Spanking Fetish Dude

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Nudist Erections III

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Happy 4th of July!

I'd like to wish all of my American readers a safe and happy 4th of July!  In the 2.5 years that my blog has been in existence, Americans have been my biggest audience by far, with nearly 500,000 page views originating in the USA or  just over 50% of the total.

Congratulations, as well,  to everyone for the huge advances in LGBTQ rights with last week's Supreme Court ruling.   Things are moving along at a meteoric pace in your country!

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In hookup news, Hot Married Guy just spent a pleasant hour with me in the Love Nest.    He was even hotter than in his photo, extremely handsome and a nice guy as well. 

He works as a prison guard and has two kids, 17 and 19.  He's been divorced once and married his second wife after he started hooking up with guys.   Hmmmmm.... really?

Unfortunately, he does not kiss guys during hookups.  This is typical of married, closeted bi guys;  they're probably afraid that kissing a man will make them gay. 

I normally would not hook up with a guy unless he agrees to kiss but if when Hot Married Guy wants to come over again, I would probably say 'yes.'

Borrowed from http://flopsreturns.blogspot.ca/

 Borrowed from http://cocksandassesonly.blogspot.ca/

Random thoughts .... and pics of men with beefy thighs

Furry, muscular thighs are among my favourite parts of a man's body.  I love being squeezed between them  and squeezing a hot guy between mine.  I love a pair of muscular thighs spread as wide open as possible as I work over a guy's cock and balls with my mouth.  Now for the random thoughts:

1. The kids and I have haven't heard from my former wife in over a week and it's been great!  She and a friend have been on a driving trip to a town 2,000 km away.  


2. Although we've been extremely cordial, it's annoying to receive her texts several times a week.  She tries to micro-manage the kids but when they reject her unsolicited advice, she gets angry tries to drag me into the conflict.  "Can you get your son to do _ _ _ _ _ _?  Talk some sense into him!" 
   
   I then have to explain to her that (a) she is being unreasonable (b) the kids know what they need to do  (c) they're adults and are capable of making their own wise decisions.


3. My Love Nest is nearing completion... and I can't wait!  I can entertain men in complete privacy anytime I want, even if the kids are in residence in the main house. 


4. Ethan (the transgendered dude) and I spent an evening together, first in a restaurant and then walking in a park.   His was the most soul-baring and (in some ways disturbing) conversation I've ever had.   But I'm not ready to post about it yet.
   


5. To pay the bills, I have accepted a week-long education-related temp. job in Toronto  in mid-July.  The pay is pretty good and I'll be put up in a hotel with meals included.  Best of all, I get to have some big city gay fun!  Woo-hoo!!


6. After weeks of being too busy for man-sex, I am to host several fit, smokin'-hot guys this week;  some in mid-afternoon and another late at night.  They're all in the prime age range 35 - 38.  :-)


7. I haven't texted or seen Big Red in over a week and I'm feeling guilty about it;  I do like him and not just for hooking up.  I can now have him over to the Love Nest soon.  The difference between Big Red and the other guys is that I probably would introduce him to my kids, should they happen to meet. 

Oh, Canada!

Today is Canada Day and it's finally hot and sunny day here!   My three kids and our three dogs have been living with me full time for several weeks now so it's been extremely busy.... but no complaints here!  They all have summer jobs with varying schedules and busy social lives so we're on the fly all the time.

We'll spend today relaxing and going kayaking to an offshore island near our house.  Tonight, the kids all have separate plans with their own friends to attend the Canada Day festivities in the spectacular waterfront park in town.  

I most likely will go on my own to check out the fireworks and the hot guys who will be everywhere.  I could easily arrange a hookup but, meh, I don't feel like it. 

This hot married guy I posted about will be coming over in a few days, so I'll just wait for that.  There's a strong possibility that I would be able to make an arrangement see the fireworks with my new friend, Ethan (the transgendered dude) and his friends, but I think that I'd rather attend on my own.

Now for my thoughts on Canada Day: my Canadian citizenship is among my proudest possessions.  I consider myself the luckiest guy in the world to be gay in Canada. 

Oh, I could quote all sort of statistics showing that Canada has among the highest rates of acceptance of gays in the world (80%) in the world or that a recent OECD "Better Life Index" ranked Canada as third highest of all the world's industrialized nations.

But here's what I like about being gay in Canada:

1. I can get married to whomever I want.  And if this happened, my marriage wouldn't just be "accepted" or "tolerated", ,but would be greeted with excitement and a sense of celebration by everyone I know, from my kids, parents, friends, bosses and colleagues.


2. My school division is one of the leaders in LGBTQ initiatives in the country.  Since coming out, I've received unequivocal support from everyone at work, from my colleagues, administrators and from the Director of Education herself.


3. While it's not perfect, most of my rights as a LGBTQ citizen are constitutionally protected in the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms and elsewhere.


4. Hanlan's Point gay nude beach on Toronto Island.  My favourite gay place to go in Toronto!  Wall-to-wall hot and average-looking naked men of all ages in a (for me) sexually-charged atmosphere.  And you get to feel the warm breezes wafting about your nether regions. 


5. Hockey players.  My town is hockey-obsessed and our region has (arguably) produced more NHL hockey players than anywhere else.  I live in eager anticipation of hooking up with a "curious" hockey player..... muscular, aggressive, masculine, naturally-furry and with testosterone coming out of his ears.   


6. Our Gay Villages in Toronto, Vancouver and in particular, Montreal, which has the hottest gay guys and clubs and the least-constipated society in North America with regard to gay sexual expression.


7. We don't have the Bible-thumping, irrational, conservative, "born-again" nut-jobs preaching God's will against LGBTQ rights and trying to run the government, as in the USA. These folks may exist in Canada but they're much quieter about it and their sort of bigotry wouldn't be tolerated by the rest of society.


8. Those nice Canadian guys.  We hear so much about rudeness and bitchiness on the online gay dating sites, but that hasn't been my experience at all.  I've been with many guys  (er....  many, many dozens of guys) and with only one or two exceptions, they've all been extremely polite, respectful, considerate and appreciative of my efforts.   Maybe its because of our small-town mentality but I really think it is just the "Polite Canadian Syndrome."