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| NOTE: Chubby Dude does NOT look like this! |
He messaged me many dozens of times and most the time, I didn't respond, or just responded with a one word answer. I did tell him "Not interested" more than once, but he wasn't listening.
But I was starting to feel sorry for him because he did seem like a nice guy. He switched tactics and said he was "looking for a gay friend only, no hooking up".
So I said, "Okay, I'll meet you for coffee but nothing else." But I must tell you that I am a high school teacher with the _ _ _ _ _ School Division. If you have any connection with that, you must tell me."
Chubby Dude: I'm also a teacher with the _ _ _ _ _ School Division.
Buddy Bear: High school?
Chubby Dude: Yes.
|Buddy Bear: Then, we must already know each other. (OMFG!)
Chubby Dude: My name is Chris _ _ _ _ _
OMFG! He had been my colleague at my old school for many years: very short, extremely obese and with a serious personal hygiene problem. He stank to high heaven! Chubby Dude had been off for two years for serious problem with alcohol and he's still a serious alcoholic. What the hell: I told him my name.
Over the next week or so, he messaged me eight or more times per day, each message more explicit than the last. "You're so fucking hot!", I LOVE your ass!! I wanted to suck your cock so bad.... and on and on.
I responded repeatedly: "Chris, calm down". Chris, just stop! but he persisted. But because I knew him, I didn't have the heart to block him.
Five years previously, Chris and I had chaperoned a band trip to a big city; we shared a hotel room for four nights. He finally made a disclosure which, for me, was the last straw.
"Do you remember when we shared that hotel room together in Seattle?"
"I jerked off while I watched you sleeping."
Ewwww! I responded: "Chris: please stop messaging me. I am not interested in you; I will never be interested in you. Attraction is a highly personal thing and I just am not attracted to you."Chubby Dude: "Oh. I'm sorry. I didn't know. " and logged off.
I feel terrible about telling him that. Poor guy!
OMB! seriously, it should have ended when you found out his name (but not revealed yours). dude sounds like he needs mental help.
ReplyDeleteAmen!!
DeleteThe problem is that he was quite a close colleague (but not an out of school friend). He took quite a risk in revealing his name so I took the high road and told him who I was. I have no concerns about having done that, actually.
DeleteAnd yes, he does need help. He has a long-standing and very serious problem with alcoholism. And I believe that anyone who has spent decades in the closet is sure to be messed up by that alone.
It might have been reason for his problems with alcohol and depression in the first place.
This situation obviously had serious problems (the hygiene issue alone would be deal breaker for me), but sex with very heavy guys can be pleasant. I hooked up with one young man three or four times some years ago -- he was up over 250 but quite nice, clean and well groomed, enthusiastic, appreciative of the skills of mature men and of someone who wasn't turned off by his weight. And it provided a bit of interesting variety to my to my sex life.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you on all counts, Will! There were a several deal breakers for me: #1 was the alcoholism which had gone on for many, many years. #2 was his neediness and the fact that he is yet another "damaged" guy in the closet.
DeleteBut I could never get intimate with anyone with his poor personal hygiene. I've been with a number of heavy guys and had good experiences. But in his case, it would have been difficult for me to be sexually attracted to him
Do you have a tumblr account?It would be really nice if you have one or considering having one. You could always import or link your articles in tumbr as well. I really do like reading about your sexual escapades and personal issues as a gay guy.
ReplyDeleteI would consider it! But what would having a Tumblr account give me that my Blogger account doesn't?
ReplyDeleteDepending on your smart phone you can post on tumblr. I can post on tumblr with my iPhone or iPad. Same for the Google blogger. But if you have lots to type, then that's another story.
DeleteOh, Buddy Bear. I'm sorry to hear your chubby former co-worker wants to get with you. I agree, mortifying to hear he was jacking off to you sleeping. That's something he could have/should have kept to himself.
ReplyDeleteI think you did the right thing being blunt and honest with him. It doesn't help if he perpetuates the fantasy that you two could get together. Besides, the quicker he puts that fantasy aside, the quicker he can move on and find that Chubby Chaser that will adore him.
Sometimes you just have to be blunt. I hate that it has to happen, but there are those times. This sure seems like one of them.
ReplyDeletePeace <3
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Oh, and I'd never admit to someone that I wanked watching them sleep! Even though I've done that.
DeleteJay
Aren't you being honest! lol
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