I've been feeling extremely blah! in the week after World Pride Toronto. There were several contributing factors:
A. My 2013 tax return is being held up because Revenue Canada needs more information: the Divorce Degree signed by the judge, the Divorce Agreement signed by the us and the lawyers, and evidence that I have actually paid to her the required spousal support.
I passed the request along to my ex-wife which resulted in some oppositional behaviour and still more nasty texting from her. My middle daughter was
caught in the middle of all this and I inadvertently said something
which made her cry, which I feel terrible about.
As a result of the delay, I will have to phone Revenue Canada to ask for a second extension for the review but I hope to have all the need information by the middle of next week.
I have the option of stopping her support payments until she provides the required tax information, but that would further poison the atmosphere, so I will see what happens.
B. My father, now 80, suffered a face-plant fall on his sidewalk, resulting in a banged-up face and eyes swollen shut; the first serious injury he's ever had.
He's on blood pressure meds, blood thinners and has bad arthritis in knees and hips, so the fall could have been caused by dizziness or just a trip.
To make matters worse, he and my mother did not tell anyone in the family about his accident. In fact, he only went to the ER the next day when it because clear that his injuries were fairly serious and then, he DROVE HIMSELF there, much to the chagrin of the medical staff.
It's always distressing when your parents start to fail; I just feel like crying to see that strong man so diminished. This is quickly followed by the second grim thought: I will be following in his footsteps all too soon.
C: We are now starting to pay for my son's commercial diving programme which starts in September. My bank balance is now into the red and it will only get worse.
The cost will be around $30,000, of which 1/3 will be paid out of an existing RESP and 1/5 will be paid each by my ex-wife.(it's what we can afford!) My son will have around $5,000 from his summer job to chip in but there still will be a shortfall.
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One sweet note: I now have a regular friend with benefits or "fuck buddy" although I don't care for that term. He is the sweet, sexy, hung Italian dude I first posted about in The Most Beautiful Cock in the World.
He's the same age as me; intelligent, fit, handsome, horny as hell, a fantastic kisser (he's Italian, after all), a passionate cuddler and a skilled top, although I did the topping yesterday. We've been together five or six times and have now agreed that we will start seeing each other on a regular basis.
This leads to a blogging dilemma. It would feel like a betrayal of confidence to blog about someone who I care about or someone with whom I might become serious. I probably won't want to tell you much about him.
But I will tell you that all of today's pictures resemble him, but he looks most like the black Speedo dude at the top. :-)
As a dedicated, card-carrying Italian I am very happy to hear with whom you've finally made the leap to a regular sexual relationship. We discussed Italian men and kissing so I know you're in good hands on that account. Another advantage of a regular sex partner is that you can begin to experiment with new techniques, positions, sex toys, etc. as you develop trust and become fully familiar with each-others' needs and limits, if any.
ReplyDeleteThe man in the second picture pretty much pushes all my buttons: body hair, big uncut cock, ink. WOOF!
Will, as you know, I am partial to Italian men! Yes, I am looking forward to trying new techniques etc. with a regular partner ... there are many things which I wouldn't do with someone I didn't know (as in a one-night stand) or didn't trust.
DeleteItalian dude is very experienced and that will be a change from the mainly inexperienced young guys who I often hook up with.
OMG! Hung and thick! How you like them? That's great! I wish you all the best! You must have picked up some gay luck in Toronto at your big fat gay pride!
ReplyDeleteKeep in touch!
He's a little on the "too large" and "too thick" side for me, actually. But I will learn to deal with it. lol
DeleteActually, Beautiful Cock Dude has been pursuing such an arrangement for at least a year but I've always resisted.
Why did I suddenly say "yes?" I've discovered that he has a strong desire to kiss and cuddle with someone his own age rather than just have sex. Also, my experience with my "pretend boyfriend" at World Pride (who I haven't yet blogged about) has prompted me to seek something more meaningful in my relationships with men.
Sorry to learn about your current predicament. But I'm most sorry to hear about your dad's accident. I hope he gets the proper medical attention so he can get well soon...
ReplyDeleteYour wife seems to be in a very dark place. She needs professional help.
As for you my friend, you've gone through so much, you deserve a little happiness . Maybe your Italian man is the Silver Lining in all these clouds over you. I wish you the best... Carpe diem!
Thank you! My tax situation is fairly minor compared to the horror of last year's audit, when we hadn't filed taxes in four years! I'm sure it will work out fine, but I will have to phone Revenue Canada on Monday; the service agents on answering the phones have always been very helpful and accommodating.
DeleteMy father received excellent and immediate medical care and is rapidly on the men.
My wife has her ups and downs, for sure, but I generally bear the brunt of her erratic behaviour. It is getting tiresome, to be sure!
Rather a case of Carpe Homo, no? :-)
DeleteHERMOSO PEDAZO DE VERGA ! IMPRESIONANTE ; MARAVILLOSA !!!!
ReplyDeleteGoogle translate tells me that this is in Spanish: "BEAUTIFUL PIECE OF DICK! AWESOME; WONDERFUL!" Thanks for commenting!
DeleteI'm so sorry to her about your dad. I know I felt the same way you do when my dad got sick and started the downhill slide. I hope he heals up quickly, but he certainly sounds like my dad - "I'll drive myself" was his refrain for years!
ReplyDeleteYour Revenue Canada sounds like our IRS. "Can we muck this up any more?" is ours motto. Good luck, and I hope you find a windfall to cover the shortage for your son.
I would love a friend like yours! I, too, hate "fuck buddy", it's so damn nasty sounding! And I agree that keeping some things close to your chest is respectful of your friend.
Peace <3
Jay
Thanks, Jay, for your kind comments! Yes, you seem very understanding of my situation. We've actually the found Revenue Canada agents to be friendly, helpful and accommodating.
DeleteThey are just doing their job regarding my claim of spousal support which should result in me getting a tax refund of $5,000! Woo-hoo!
you don't have to tell us anything about your new friend. just say he's a great guy and leave it at that.
ReplyDeletesending mojo and good karma to your dad.
Thanks, sweetie!
DeleteSorry to hear about your problems. Here's hoping for quick recoveries.
ReplyDeleteAnd DAY-um (on the FB)! Give a few extra slurps and thrusts for all us frustrated closeted married bears out there...
Thanks, minn. man! Does the "minn" stand for Minnesota?
DeleteIt does.
DeleteHope your dad is okay now. It's difficult with aging parents, I know.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Jeffrey! My Dad is on the mend and is looking much better.
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