These cute doggie / sexy men pictures for Sean's Dogably Pawfect Saturday are from fuckyeahguyswithdogs.
I'd like to thank everyone for the fantastic advice on my last post on being exclusive . Yes, I will continue to seek hookups with other guys as time (and my desire) allows.
Fortunately, unlike the young men in their 20s who want sex "right now", guys my age often require much lead time before a hookup is possible. It's like scheduling a dental appointment:
Me: "I'll pick you up at the airport at midnight and then we'll go to your hotel?" Hotel sex! Woo-hoo!!
"So Wednesday morning between 9:15 - 9:30 am works for you?" .... Yes, I actually faked a doctor's appointment on a work day to hook up with an insanely hot, married guy (42) in his home. Animalistic sex! Grrr!!
I had been thinking of opening the "exclusive / not-exclusive" discussion with my special guy, so Cubby's advice is very much in line with my thoughts on the matter.
"Tell him that you are being sexually active with others and that you need to do so because you need to build your experience and skills. Tell him you will not be exclusive, but neither will you rub it in his face."
I need to make one big disclosure myself. Not only did I break the cardinal rule of hookups, "Never become emotionally attached to a fuck buddy," I've placed myself at an even greater risk of a heartbreak.
You see, my special guy is a married man with four adult children, three of whom are married and on their own. I have no doubt that his feelings towards me have moved far beyond infatuation / lust and now run much deeper. Although he assures me that he "has a plan", time will tell whether or not he has the courage to break up his marriage and risk losing everything in his present life to be with me.
On the other hand, I am still very much married and nearly as unavailable as him. When my divorce is a "done deal" (Who knows when that will be? A year from now?) I think that would be the time for me to move on if there hasn't been any progress on his side of the equation.
I never thought in a million years that I'd be giving my heart away to someone who is essentially not available... and in fact, may never be available. But it's happened.
You are a S - L - U - T.
ReplyDeleteAnd I am J - E - A - L - O - U - S!
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You haven't mentioned the house sale in a while. Any movement?
Here in the Great White North, winter is an extremely slow time for real estate. The viewings are picking up a bit with spring approaching, but carrying three houses is taking a severe toll on our finances. We've got to sell this place soon!
DeleteWhile we are on the subject of updates. How is your brother doing. I sure hope whatever happens with you two, it satisfies you both.
ReplyDeleteMy brother returned to his fireman's job seven weeks after the his surgery. He seems completely back to normal. However, I don't know whether or not he has retained his ability to function sexually; this isn't something we would ever discuss in my family!
DeleteI understand that about the never discuss. Too bad. If he is having a problem, it would be good he had SOMEONE to discuss it with. I wish him the best.
DeleteBuddy!Its been quite long since my last comment-exam/busy...you have come so far in you gay journey.I'm so proud of you and hope one day I'll be free to come out.About your guy,I'm happy that you're taking time.Take at least 3 or 4 months before you decide.that will give your guy to decide whether he wants to come out or not and you to see if your're ready for another relationship.All the best Buddy and I'll pray for you today so that every thing goes in the right direction for you.-James
ReplyDeleteI thought I commented !? I can't remember if I did, or the comment. I am getting old.
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