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On Saturday, my wife takes possession of her new house. A very big step forward for the whole family. Some friends will help move a mountain of her stuff from the waterfront house and a few items from my house.
I wasn't asked to help with the move. My wife might have been concerned about about my spinal problem. The real reason probably was, as my daughter put it, me being there "would rain on Mom's parade." Very funny and perceptive!
Thank goodness that I won't be involved in the move!! My wife can get extremely bossy.... which is made doubly annoying by the fact that she does very little work herself.
Knowing that my wife is disorganized and highly A.D.D., my daughter asked, "Could you look into what Mom has to do to rent a U-Haul truck and then send her an e-mail about it? She'll probably try to get one at the last minute and none will be available." I did the detective work, e-mailed my wife about it and she phoned to very nicely thank me.
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I was to meet with our banker to arrange a mortgage in my name for half the value of the waterfront home. My wife then said she would wait until our house sold and I could pay her then. Starting this week, we will, separately, look after all expenses for each our new homes. The expenses for the third home (up for sale) would be split between us.
I said we would be facing a serious cash flow problem very soon, but she said, "Don't worry, it will all work out." It this the same woman I was married to for 21 years?... the one who had a hysterical over-reaction to every problem? I think the reality of her exciting new life start to sink in.... finally.
I anticipate a couple more potentially difficult conversations this week. As my daughter says, "Every conversation with Mom is difficult." We will be making the final decisions about the division of our "stuff" .... leather couches, tables, electronics and the like. After 21 years with a joint account, we need to have our finances completely separated by Friday such as bank accounts, payroll deposits, credit cards and bills. The biggest hassle will be in getting her to actually do anything, once we've agreed upon it.
I'm sure there will be many more disputes along the way (hello ...alimony discussions!!) but these are becoming fewer and farther between. Somehow, we've been able to come to an agreement eventually on everything so far.
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Seems like there is a lot of baggage to deal with after the breakdown of a marriage. Emotional and financial.
ReplyDeleteLot of baggage isn't the word! But if you are right and she is starting to see the advanatages for herself, you may be finally at the end of the worst of it. BTW, is that you in the final pic? Sure looks like your style. Esp since only one guy is peeking back. LOL. Very hot either way.
ReplyDeleteI'm very glad things are still going well.
ReplyDeleteCross your fingers - maybe her meds finally kicked in!
ReplyDeleteAnd that's definitely YOU in the last pic. Don't lie - we know it is.
#1 - a bit young, but nice balls and bush. and uncut too.
ReplyDeleteI'm not so sure about RG's comment; I am leaning towards it NOT being you in the last pix. prove it!
Mind of Mine: You said it, sister!! Luckily, my wife and I mainly have achieved a high level of cooperation. I can't imagine how divorcing spouses who are adversarial survive the process!
ReplyDeleteWhen you think how ridiculously easy it is to get married, divorce is complex and an emotional and financial minefield.
Skier and RG: Yes, the last pic is me. Damn! my uni-ball gives me away every time!!
Cubby: Thank you! I know you've been following my wife's erratic behaviour with some concern. It has been slowly improving over many months, trust me.
RG: I've often wished my wife would go on Prozac,although I know it would just mask her symptoms but not help at all with her underlying problems.
anne marie: Yes, pic #1 is much younger than the typical picture I post, but he is a magnificent testicular specimen.
Dan: thanks for commenting and reading! Yours was among the very first blogs I read, years before I knew / admitted I was gay.
ReplyDeletejeeze (whistles softly)...your pix makes me wanna holla! WOOF!
ReplyDeleteAs both a pharmacist and a patient on Prozac (for many years in fact) I have to correct something. It doesn't mask the symptoms. It actually treats the underlying chemical problem. And to be honest, it was not the one ball so much as it was your style of pic. I had to laugh when I saw it. I can remember earlier posts that said such a things wouldn't happen. To me it is a symptom of just how much happier you are with yourself and situation. I couldn't be happier. Remember the best revenge is living well.
ReplyDeleteSkier: thanks for sharing your Prozac knowledge. I know nothing about it, really, as my family felt that you'd have to be crazy to see a psychiatrist. It's a moot point since my wife has refused, for most of her adult life, to seek help for her depression, A.D.D. and anger issues.
ReplyDelete"Living well is the best revenge." I think that will be my new motto.
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