tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post5993047782508220922..comments2024-03-07T20:17:12.957-07:00Comments on One Step at a Time: Outed myself at workBuddy Bearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-56262026805498297872011-11-07T08:34:58.286-07:002011-11-07T08:34:58.286-07:00I'm so proud of you, my friend!
For most, co...I'm so proud of you, my friend! <br /><br />For most, coming out is a non-event. <br /><br />Celebrate the good friends in your life. They are reflections of the goodness in you!WranglerManhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10901303148980120122noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-43855207785605210482011-11-03T18:09:25.527-07:002011-11-03T18:09:25.527-07:00Cubby: are you saying that all Canadian men have ...Cubby: are you saying that <b>all</b> Canadian men have a gay accent? If word gets out about your stereotypical view, you'll be met at the border by mob of angry Canadian guys, throwing glitter and lashing you with their pink feather boas.<br /><br />Jack: I loved the video you posted of yourself. I plan to post a talking video one day, but maybe after my divorce is finalized. <br /><br />Thank you, everyone! Coming out really was <b>not a big deal</b> in my workplace; remember, my employer is a leader in Canada in celebrating LGBTQ people. I made a snap decision to out myself as my colleagues were starting to get a negative impression about my wife and her "drama moments" (via the office grapevine) without fully appreciating the cause.<br /><br />Will: very wise comments, indeed! Other than maybe not coming out to my wife a few years earlier than I did, I feel that I've "done the right thing" ever since.<br /><br />Skier: best of luck on your coming out... a gradual approach is good, I think. And yes, I feel a special to connection to my colleague who said, "I thought it was a very special quality in you." That was the sweetest thing to say.Buddy Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-48688017186025283112011-11-03T15:12:56.729-07:002011-11-03T15:12:56.729-07:00Congratulations on coming out (so to speak). That...Congratulations on coming out (so to speak). That is a big step for many people and a sign of how much more comfortable you are in your own skin.<br /><br />Cheers,<br />BosGuyBosGuyhttp://www.bosguy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-13294678933715328922011-11-03T12:51:32.936-07:002011-11-03T12:51:32.936-07:00I had coffee with a former co worker today. I cam...I had coffee with a former co worker today. I came out to her about 2 years ago. She has always been very supportive. When I told about my journey out, she was there for me. BUT, she agrees it will be easier for me at new job than at the old one. Reason? Most of the people I work with now are less than 30 years old. Funny, I am the oldest one there. First time ever for me. I hope when Feb comes, it becomes my non-event. In the meantime, I am gradually coming out to a select few I trust and who are all giving me support. Best wishes to you. And I know I don't have to say this, but please be extra supportive to co worker. What a contrast between your behavior and her spouse. If you didn't know you were amazing before. You should now.skierhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00094802443325458254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-37926116819739917242011-11-03T10:38:05.342-07:002011-11-03T10:38:05.342-07:00nice pix, buddy! and congrats on being accepted f...nice pix, buddy! and congrats on being accepted for who you are without question!anne marie in phillynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-83617701219704674932011-11-03T09:55:22.086-07:002011-11-03T09:55:22.086-07:00"Recently, her husband told her, out of the b..."Recently, her husband told her, out of the blue, "I don't want to be married to you anymore." This launched a nasty, adversarial divorce battle."<br /><br />Comparisons are odious.<br /><br />Your friend is dealing with rejection and your wife is dealing with a sense of betrayal. Both are grieving losses - the deaths of dreams for a future that you once shared and parts of their identities (for some women I beleive that being someone's mom or wife can be a part of their identity in addition to the self identity - part of it may just be how some societies are). From what you have written, although there are difficulties, you are not rejecting your wife or your responsibilities to the family that you created together. As you have written, you are continuing to work together despite the pains and aggravations. It does not sound as though your co-worker has this.Will Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06489879295104017008noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-28089080019755804612011-11-03T08:57:43.853-07:002011-11-03T08:57:43.853-07:00I celebrate the fact that coming out is a non-even...I celebrate the fact that coming out is a non-event, as it should be. The whole concept of coming out is a bit weird. If we’re going to have it, it should be applied equitably across the board. Everyone gets to come out, even straight people. Declare your sexuality! The world wants to know! Not. Maybe someday people can just be.<br />@Cubby: ROTFLMAO! Good one!<br />cielAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-79507535287217564362011-11-03T08:21:07.846-07:002011-11-03T08:21:07.846-07:00Congratulations. That's a big step. Especially...Congratulations. That's a big step. Especially considering you are around your co-workers for more hours of the week than most people are around their own families. (Wow, that sounds depressing.) But it helps to be able to be yourself around them.Erik Rubrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02626660182410256426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-73534938609965979552011-11-03T06:56:01.125-07:002011-11-03T06:56:01.125-07:00You've made an awesome step forward! Congratu...You've made an awesome step forward! Congratulations. I was thinking the other day how liberating (again) it feels to be able to openly converse about my boyfriend with my coworkers just like they talk about their spouses. It's great to be able to share life stories with each other and no longer having to worry that someone will discover my secret. I don't think the average person understands the true depth of how important that is to a person's mental well-being. Hugs Buddy!JustAMikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02304812477710391158noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-77008626919965114532011-11-03T06:15:20.259-07:002011-11-03T06:15:20.259-07:00Contratulations on this other very big step!
And ...Contratulations on this other very big step!<br /><br />And yes, the "two-spirits" have always been respected amongst Native Americans and in North-East Asia, and many other places in the world!<br /><br />Hugs<br />JonDeepBluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00897586779071639604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-31404864207243339412011-11-03T05:56:38.024-07:002011-11-03T05:56:38.024-07:00A gay sounding voice eh? Let us be the judge of t...A gay sounding voice eh? Let us be the judge of that! Let's hear it! (I've always thought I sounded gay too, but only when I hear recordings of myself.)Explorer Jackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633922755283886454noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-70524878898117450202011-11-03T05:13:56.475-07:002011-11-03T05:13:56.475-07:00"...I think I have a pretty gay-sounding voic..."...I think I have a pretty gay-sounding voice." I think you're mistaking gay with Canadian.<br /><br />LOL Oh I'm sorry Buddy, but that was just too good to pass up. You know I totally love you :-)<br /><br />I love the concept of 'two-spirit'. Native Americans celebrated their two-spirited brothers and sisters. Why can't other cultures?Cubbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15419686621818785014noreply@blogger.com