tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post5044332096425008679..comments2024-03-07T20:17:12.957-07:00Comments on One Step at a Time: Rugged menBuddy Bearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-11040348190994688292013-02-10T06:15:43.549-07:002013-02-10T06:15:43.549-07:00Thanks, Jay, for the excellent advice! In this ca...Thanks, Jay, for the excellent advice! In this case, the crush won't amount to much and won't persist beyond this semester, in my experience. Since the student sees me for only 75 minutes a day in a very large class, there's no chance it will get out of hand.<br /><br />The real problems occur when a teacher and student are together for longer periods of time in looser situations such as when coaching a team or supervising a Scout camping trip. Buddy Bearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18052407067718899985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3970098682068094639.post-71198339916556435882013-02-09T09:54:13.506-07:002013-02-09T09:54:13.506-07:00I worked in a high school (public) for 5 years. I ...I worked in a high school (public) for 5 years. I already knew professional boundaries from scouting, but at times, as you mention, it was tough. Especially when you know one or two are gay.<br /><br />As to the crush. I've dealt with those, too, but an interesting take on it was brought to light during some training I took to work with LGBTQ youth a couple of weeks ago. The suggestion, if it ever got to the point where you had to do something about it, was to compare ages, and how could an "old man" (or woman) like me have anything really in common with a young person? Not to mention the inability to "keep up", etc. etc. I thought that was a great way to explain to a younger person why a relationship would never work rather than just throwing up the whole "professional boundary wall". It redirects the person towards others their own age and doesn't leave them pining after you, since they (hopefully) realize that you're right, and they'd be much better off with someone like them.<br />Peace <3<br />JayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com