Tuesday, April 29, 2014
A gracious note from Obese Politician
Obese Politician sent me this gracious message on squirt.org shortly after our coffee date three days ago:
Hi _ _ _ _ _
I quite enjoyed your company today and having coffee with you. If you are interested in meeting again perhaps to do dinner or a show that would be nice
If you don't want to do this again just let me know, I understand. Have a good evening and good weekend. Hope you see your daughter tomorrow
Hugs _ _ _ _ _ _
I have very mixed feelings about the whole episode. I do feel sorry for Gay Politician due to his loneliness and (let's face it), unattractiveness in the gay LTR marketplace but that would be the worst possible reason to become friends with someone. He's been rejected many times before me; surely he's used to it.
Even if I did want to be platonic friends with him, I am fairly sure that he would be pushing to turn it into an LTR which would make every encounter as awkward as hell. But in his gracious note, he did provide me with a clear "out" and clearly understood my ambivalence.
I'm not sure that I would want to go out to the movies with him on what looked like a "gay date", surrounded by dozens of people I knew in town including students. I just wouldn't want people to think that we were a couple, shallow as that sounds.
What is going out to dinner like with someone who's had 95% of his stomach surgically removed? Obese Politician is limited to eating 1/2 cup portions at a time. Where is the fun in that, going out to a nice restaurant and having someone else watching me eat dinner without being able to eat himself?
If I had a platonic gay friend, I would want to "do stuff" with him such as going wilderness hiking, cross-country skiing, biking or walking in the park, but Gay Politican can barely walk due to his obesity.
I am also annoyed with his persistence, because I did ignore his advances for months on Scruff, Grindr and Squirt when any non-desperate gay guy would have gotten the message and left me alone. Why did I say "yes" to a coffee date?
Because I'm a nice guy, that's why! But a nice guy would not string Obese Politician along and leave him thinking that we had a chance. But although I'm a "nice guy", I am rejecting him mainly based on his unattractiveness ..... how shallow is that?
But I must respond to his squirt message soon, and honestly. But my lack of response over the past three days has probably already screamed to him my lack of interest already.
In other news, my charismatic, sweet middle daughter arrived home for the summer from her far-away university. After one overnight at my ex's, she is spending the week with me which is extremely pleasant. We make and eat supper together, work on light projects around the house and watch movies before bedtime.
I am determined to cherish these times because they are drawing to a close. Soon, she will be living independently and most likely far away given the poor job prospects for young people in our town.
To that end, I haven't logged onto Squirt at all since Saturday evening when I had five different guys, several of them desirable, trying to start chats with me. I thought: "Enough!"
I'm deferring any hookups until next week when (I think) my daughter will be living at my ex wife's house.
My son is a bit of a "free agent"; he is living here as well but see him only in passing. He spend time mainly with his friends (as a 17 year old should) and has frequent sleepovers who-knows-where. I suspect he lives here mainly to get away from his mother who he finds annoying on an on-going basis.
But every few days or so, he schedules an evening with me working to complete one of our major renovation projects, so he does have a strong sense of responsibility and duty.
That's all for now! Here are some hot athletic guys in spandex to brighten your day.
at 4:10 AM