An occupational hazard of being a teacher in a smallish, very remote city is that you constantly run into students, past and present, teacher colleagues and parents of students when out in public.
As a gay man who's really "out there", I think that the challenge is even greater. I work hard to avoid awkward situations with men from my school community, whether in the locker room, on the online hookup sites or in the bedroom.
Several times a week, I go to the athletic complex early in the morning before heading to school. While there, I soak in the whirlpool tub, sit in the scorching-hot sauna, have a shower and get dressed for school.
With our frigid temperatures, it just feels good to have the heat soak right into my bones... it's so different from my own polar bathroom. I rarely swim my laps at this time; I don't have the time and I'm usually too preoccupied with school matters to "zone out" while swimming.
And unllike other times of the day, I am NOT there for the eye candy. The only men in the locker room on early weekday mornings are +70 years old. I generally avert my eyes to avoid looking at them.
But yesterday, I went into the communal shower room to see an gorgeous, fully-naked young man showering with his back to me. What a pleasant surprise!
Twink-ish with smooth, tawny-coloured, glistening skin, a perky bum with well-defined indentations on either side of his ass cheeks and long black hair which he was washing.
The young man turned around to reveal a lean torso, abs and a lovely, above-average sized uncut cock. And then....
"Oh my fucking GOD!! That's Shane!!"
The naked hottie was a grade 11 student in my period one class who sits front-row centre. "Yikes!!" With a Swedish mother and an Asian father, Shane was absolutely beautiful; tall and lean with shoulder-length black hair, high cheekbones and dark Asian eyes.
I realized that Shane must have dropped his mother off at the nearby restaurant where she and my daughter work as cooks and stopped in for a shower on the way to school. Small town connections!
It was so incredibly awkward! Luckily, he was washing his hair with his eyes closed so I don't think he spotted me. I turned off my shower and literally ran from the room, threw my clothes on and fled the building.
An hour later at school, I couldn't even look at him in class knowing what he looked like naked. I feel like such an old perv. :-|
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YOU'RE NOT OLD. =]
ReplyDeleteThank you, Sean!
DeleteI agree, far from old. And what I do at work is go I to the stall to pee. Not taking chances of weirdos at work accusing me of something. In the restroom.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, back to Shane, welcome to a world of how men look different with or without clothes. I used to work at the baths years ago, then see the men on the streets wondering why they look familiar. Cuz they have their clothes on. At the baths, they only have their towels on and wet hair maybe. There's even a book or web site on this subject of how people look different with and without clothes.
Yes, I've learned in the past 3 years that outward appearances can be deceiving.
DeleteI've hooked up with some nerdy-looking guys who were packing a magnificent cock and balls.
Hmmm. I understand your reaction on an emotional level; on an intellectual one - not so much. But, you do make me wonder ... Does our impression, the way in which we regard our friends and acquaintances, change the instant we see them without clothes?
ReplyDeleteMy reaction was 100% due to the fact that he was a student; nothing more. Professional boundaries!
DeleteIn this day and age, high school teachers and students should NEVER see each other naked.
Buddy Bear, I totally understood what you're feeling.Just like you, I once bumped into my lecturer in a local gym locker room wearing nothing but a worn out underwear(really old undies).Just the two of us, with awkward nods.It was so awkward for both of us, especially for him since I was fully clothed. Yes , he was kinda good looking for his age, but it was really weird to see him like that .To make things worse, he was also my practical instructor, so i need to make conversation with him in the future.
ReplyDeleteBTW,Buddy, you should watch this video.Its really hot and the outdoor setting reminded me of you since you have taken lots of hot pictures in the outdoor settting
http://www.xtube.com/watch.php?v=1S4hg-G784-
i hope it's okay to post a link to such videos.
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Thank you! Yes, it was very hot! I love the bearded bottom hunk. I see guys like that everywhere in my town but I haven't hooked up with anyone like that. One day!
DeleteConsidering it was totally innocent, non-contrived, and resulted in no embarrassment on his part (and you don't really know if he'd been embarrassed if he'd seen you), I'd say no harm, no foul. But I get how you felt. I always felt that way when I'd run into scouts in places like the gym or the pool changing rooms. Didn't always flee (wasn't always possible), but certainly kept it as discreet as possible.
ReplyDeletePeace <3
Jay
He didn't see me . I'm sure of it. But it would have been very awkward for both of us ..... and there would have been some gossip amongst the students at school.
DeleteI'm still waiting for details on your hookup with a dancer a little back
ReplyDeleteYep. I still plan to write about it. But it was such a complicated, momentous event that I hardly know where to begin!
DeleteAs someone who spent 39 years in academia as a base for my theater design career, I understand completely. However I do wish the barriers didn't exist. How lovely it would be if we could just have a totally natural community of men of all ages, untroubled by prejudices or hang-ups of any kind. There's probably a utopian gay novel out there someplace that presents and develops such a society. I know it would eventually fall apart as men get competitive for power, but I just dig men so much that I'd love to live that way.
ReplyDeleteGiven the power imbalance that exists, I don't ever see a time when teachers and students should be mixing freely in naked situations.
DeleteSomething like that was bound to happen. Might I suggest thought as to how to handle next time if fleeing isn't an option? Did remind me of the time I saw my US Congressman naked though.
ReplyDeleteI've run into other, clothed, students in the locker room when I was just about to change. I jokingly say: "Sorry, boys, I'm not taking my pants off in front of you!"
DeleteAnd then I go change in a toilet cubi.
Interesting you ended this post calling yourself an "old perv", yet you began it, dismissing the usual occupants of the communal shower as, "70+ that you "avert" your eyes from.
ReplyDeleteWe're about the same age, Buddy Bear, but at least I know, age 70+ is in my future, there is no going back. It does not matter how many "perky bum(s) with well-defined indentations on either side of his ass cheeks" we prefer in our fantasies, real or imagined.
Embrace what you are and are becoming, sir. A sign of maturity, me thinks.
My "old perv" comment was tongue and cheek I avoid looking at the twinky boys in the locker room too. I don't perv on them. .
DeleteI'm acutely aware of my mortality having escaped terminal cancer at 20 and from that time have been described as "mature, wise beyond my years."
I hope to be 75 one day but at present, I simply do not find naked 75 year old men atractive.
I am Asian. And I'm definitely not ageist.
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