I have been extremely busy in Toronto and decided not to let the blogging of my gay journey interfere with actual real-life experiences. My temporary job has been quite demanding but sorting the many offers on squirt.org and grindr has taken up most of my time.
Most unusually (I think) for gay guys online, I respond to all messages, if only to thank the guy and to politely explain that I'm not interested in what he was offering. Of the messages I receive, perhaps half of them half are of some interest to me and of those, probably 80% never materialize into an actual skin-to-skin contact.
Online gay guys are notorious for flaking out and the vast majority of young guys in an expensive big city cannot host. And yes, all of the guys contacting me have been younger. And if a hookup does materialize, it often involves an hour of travel on Toronto transit.
I will be blogging about some of my gay adventures in the days to come, but of the (many) hookups which have materialized, some have been fantastic / mind-blowing / life-changing and some have been "okay." But every guy I've been with has been polite, respectful, thoughtful and appreciative of my efforts. Nice Canadian guys, all.
This comment appeared on my last post which I had to address:
Just curious. While you lived a straight life -- e.g., before getting married -- were you also a slut with women? I know this sounds like me passing judgment (I am a virgin in his 50s so I can get away with that, actually), but I am wondering why -- with kids and income issues -- you chose this hedonistic lifestyle? If is is consistent with what you did in your 20s, fine. But, if it is not, it seems you're trying to live up to some sort of gay stereotype. Odd, and, in the end, possibly self-destructive.
- I am a single man who is enjoying a normal, healthy sex life. I am highly respectful of all my sexual partners at all times. The word "slut" is inappropriate.
- I was a virgin (gay and straight) when I married my wife. Looking back, the main reason was that I never would have considered the possibility that I was gay and I did not have a strong desire to have sex with a woman.
- I cannot imagine a 50-year-old virgin such as yourself having any understanding of sexual desire. Seriously? You remind me of the Pope or some Catholic nun preaching about the "evils of the flesh" as though a judgemental attitude will cause your body to stop producing it's sex hormones.
- This has nothing to do with income. I am in Toronto to earn money to pay the bills and am being extremely frugal otherwise. My hookups cost nothing; I'm not paying for sex although if someone offered me money to have sex with them, I'd probably do it!
- My kids know that I have a normal, healthy sex life and that I see other men. I consider myself to be an important role model to them with regard to my sex life. As to the specific details, they don't need to know.
- I am not "living up" to any gay stereotype.... I am living my life how I choose to at this moment. Will I doing this 10 years from now? Probably not, but that will be my choice.
- The gay stereotype is defined externally by judgement people like yourself. If you take 1000 gay people, I've learned that you will find 1000 different individuals who are living their lives in their own way and those lives will be very much like the lives of straight people.
- Who are you calling odd? I'm getting more and more pissed as I read your comments.
- I am extremely safe in my sexual practices as are (as far as I have experienced) my partners. I am extremely confident about the situations and in the guys I choose to meet. I turn down far more guys than I accept into my bed and I am "in charge" at all times.