Dude, really? Seriously? Do you really think that a serious LTR is possible with someone 35 years younger than yourself? Or if you encountered a fit, smokin' hot guy your age, you wouldn't be interested in him because he was too old? Or... if you hadn't let yourself get so fat, do you think that you might actually be attractive to younger guys?
On sites like squirt.org, the vast majority of middle-aged gay guys (40+) are interested only in "younger." It's extremely common for a 48 year old guy to list his preferred range as 20 to 50. Whoopee! He'd consider dating someone two years than himself!
I wonder if these middle-aged men are in denial about their age and mortality. The young guys are fun to be with, I'll admit, and must make them feel younger too.
I know I'm the pot calling the kettle black, given the number of 22 year old men I've hooked up with. And yes, the young guys do often have hotter bodies, less-saggy skin and cocks that get hard more quickly. But they're generally less skilled in the bedroom and have less desire to provide sexual pleasure to their partner.
But I've NEVER messaged a 22 year old for sex. It's always them wanting to hook up with me .. .and well, who am I to deny those poor, horny young men? It's practically my civic duty, to help them out with their gay virginity problem. I rarely turn down an offer for sex from someone in his 20s.
But I'd never seek a relationship with a guy in his 20s.... and maybe even a guy in his 30s. When I started out on the gay sites, my goal was to find a guy exactly my age. But I've discovered, every guy that I've met who's been my age (in my town at least) has been one or more of the following:
- seeking only much younger guys
- still in the closet and living with his mother
- still in the closet and married to his wife
- a real stick-in-the-mud, stuck on his routine and who I couldn't imagine fitting into my family life of kids, dogs and clutter.
- fucked-up: needy, desperate or somehow 'damaged' from spending their formative years in the closet when being an out was dangerous, illegal and the subject of scorn.
But if I will be seeking an LTR one day, the question for me is this: how young is too young?