One funny moment came when my fuck buddy, Mr. Handsome, arrived to pick up his son. He looked more gorgeous than ever in mirrored aviator sunglasses. We shook hands and pretended to introduce ourselves in full view of the assembled students, his son, teachers and some parents.
So far, Mr. Handsome is the only man who has all the qualities I'd want in a partner. He's intelligent, funny, sexually adventurous / aggressive, finacially well-off, extremely handsome, my age (he's 48), available (divorced four years ago) and has a strong connection with his family. He has a nice-enough body with a beautiful, furry torso.
He's presently in the closet (a concern!) and the last time we're together, I had to leave abruptly when a relative phoned to say that she was dropping by. In frustration, he said, "I'm so tired of sneaking around!" Well, the solution to that is pretty obvious, isn't it?
He hasn't come out yet because: "I don't want to give my ex any more ammunition to attack me with." This is the 44-year old ex-wife who dumped him for her married, 70-year old former professor? But Mr. Handsome will have to find a path which is comfortable for him.
It will sound horrible when I admit that I cannot conceive of being in a relationship with him. Would I want to take on someone with a progressive, neurological condition like Parkinsons'? As Michael J. Fox said: "It's the gift that keeps on taking." I know it sounds shallow of me to say this, but there it is. Maybe it's just a fear of the unknown.
But I am in no way ready for an exclusive LTR with anyone. I just haven't gotten over the excitement of hooking up with all those those lovely young men. And if these normal, fun-loving, healthy, handsome young men are pestering me for sex why shouldn't I say yes? And, by the way, I've met plenty of fantstic men in their 30s and 40s too.
In the past month, I've been messaged numerous times by a handsome young man with fiery red hair (let's call him "Big Red") and brilliant blue eyes who wants to have some sexytime with me. We've been chatting both on bear411.com and squirt. org. A few notable points about Big Red.:
(1) He's a 'big boy', over 250 pounds but that is not a deal breaker for me in a young man. Again, this sounds inconsistent, but I find older, obsese men unattractive but I don't mind being with an overweight younger man. And yes, I know that I am an older man myself and am steadily getting heavier as the years progress.
In my last post, a commenter took me for task for describing "fat guys" in a derogatory way and I'm sure he's right. I hardly knew how to respond to that but I will try to describe heavier guys in more clinical terms in the future.
Maybe it's just the novelty of being with a young man which is the over-riding appeal for me. As well, I think that overweight young men are not quite as ... er.... saggy.... as overweight older men. They carry their weight in a way which is more attractive to me. In fact, lying on top of a naked overweight young man feels fantastic, rather like lying on a wonderful, warm waterbed.
(2) Big Red is looking for a sexual partner who is willing to take sexy pictures of him. Wow! That would be so hot! ... and I could get him to take pictures of me! I'm so tired of taking self-pics with the self-timer on my camera.