For a change, here are some pictures of some sweet, naked guys from flaccid affairs.
Despite my limited availability, I am continuing to seek hookups with other guys. I`m still getting a steady stream of messages from a wide variety of guys on pof.com and have not responded to the vast majority of them. Who has the time?
Right now, I am messaging and chatting with several guys with the aim of arranging a coffee date or hookup. The guys can be grouped as follows:
The Flaky 20-Year-Olds: They all claim to be "seeking a woman" on their profiles but will message me multiple times, "Wanna hookup?" Some will send pictures of their cock; one guy even sent a picture of his asshole (ewww!). All are very appealing but I am determined not to seem over-eager. When I finally say, "Okay, I am available any time this weekend," that's the last I hear of them.
Despite the difficulty with this age group, I wouldn't say "no" to a hookup with 20ish guy. I think I just need to get it out of my system.... just the idea of having a sweet 20-something cock in my mouth is pretty exciting.
The Lonely 40 and 50ish guys, seeking a soul mate: Their profiles all say "seeking a LTR" and "not interested in a random hookup" which is the exact opposite of what I'm seeking right now. Yet, they continue to send me messages.
Many of them seem fantastic guys with heartfelt profiles and pics of them doing activities which I love: hiking, skiing, cooking and camping. I haven't contacted any of them. I cannot start a LTR right now; it's too soon (emotionally) for me and I'm not yet out of my marriage. A simple "just friends" outing such as going for a hike will not remain "just friends" for long, I fear.
The Married Guys: Maybe it's the nature of my profile, age and inexperience, but this is the largest group of guys who have responded to me. All are aged 35+. Some have no experience at all but are wanting to explore their increasing M2M attraction while others have a great deal of experience. One guy, "Big Al" (very handsome!) has contacted me several times. He entertains guys in his own home regularly when his wife leaves for work . I am staggered at the risks that some (but not all) of these guys take in (1) being found out and (2) passing some disease onto their wives.
The experienced and "out" guys who always knew they were gay:
This category includes the HIV+ guy with whom I am having a platonic date tonight. He`s a most interesting guy but deeply discouraged about every aspect of his life.
I haven't hooked up with anyone in this category recently, but I'd like to..... I'm sure that I really could learn a few things. I have chatted quite a bit with a sexy, experienced 30 year old who says he prefers older guys ("more stable, less drama"), finds my pictures "smokin' hot" and my inexperience a plus. He is worried because he is ten pounds overweight. I said, are you f*cking kidding? Do you think any middle-aged guy will worry about a few extra pounds when a sexy, sweet 30 year old wants to take him into his bed. You're gorgeous, absolutely perfect!!
I plan to set up a platonic coffee or beer date with him soon. (I'm sure he`ll agree.) He`s very intelligent so I plan to ask him about all sorts of gay topics and won`t mention a hookup at all. If he wants to hookup with me, I plan to make him beg for it.... I`m not kidding!
It may not be easy, but Kudos on your efforts!!!
ReplyDeleteBeing sleazy is just too damn much hard work.
ReplyDeleteNevertheless, enjoy it.
So...all it takes is a little begging?
ReplyDeleteSean, you wouldn't have to beg.... and I think you know that.
DeleteI think you are not along your Journey yet to settle down into one category of man. May I suggest you due the Whitman Sampler approach before you get fusty like the rest of us ? :-)
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